Adoption Blog by Friends in Adoption

Learn How to Adopt a Child at FIA’s GAW Adoption Workshop

Friends in Adoption (FIA) will be in Brooklyn, NY for the next Get Acquainted Workshop on Saturday, June 25, 2016. Workshop Highlights: 1) Hear adoptive parents tell their experience working with FIA; 2) Q&A with birth mothers and/or birth families; 3) Meet FIA staff, social workers & other adoption professionals.

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How to Adopt a Child – Free Info Session – June 4, 2016

Friends in Adoption (FIA), a licensed, not-for-profit domestic infant adoption agency with a 30 plus year history, is holding a free informational meeting to educate prospective adoptive parents about adoption.

Please join Friends in Adoption for a free informational meeting on Saturday, June 4, 2016 from 10am-12:00 p.m. at 231 Front St. Suite 201 DUMBO Brooklyn, NY 11201 (F Train to York ST).

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Video: Brandon, Katrina and Xander

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Brandon, Katrina and Xander's Adoption Profile Video Transcript:

Katrina: Welcome! I'm Katrina...

Brandon: ... and I'm Brandon

Katrina: And this is Xander. We have a lot of love to share.

Brandon: We love our home, and we have a lot of love for each other.

Katrina: We are very excited to welcome a child through adoption.

Xander: Baby!

Katrina: So eating together as a family is really important to us, and we pretty much do it for every meal.

Brandon: Yup. Most of the time we are cooking food from scratch, doing a lot of stuff with local ingredients, and Xander seems to love it. He has been very happy with most meals; still doesn't really like the broccoli.

Brandon: This is our dog Belvedere. He's a 5 year old hound mix, he was actually born the day before our wedding. He is a very sweet dog. Him and Xander get along very well; they play together; he is very gentle with Xander. It's very cute to see.

Katrina: Yeah, they're like best friends.

Katrina: So we like to do a lot together as a family, and as much as possible, we like to be outside. We live on 14 wooded acres, but the great part is we're close enough that we can still walk to town, so it is kinda like the best of both worlds.

Brandon: Katrina walks down to town sometimes with Xander; they'll go to the library. I work in town, so they can come down and visit me; we go and hang out on the green a little bit. It's been really nice being this close to town, yet being so rural.

Katrina: We spend a lot of time working in our yard, and we've gotten Xander to help us with chores from the very beginning, and he really enjoys it. On the weekends we also like to go hiking and walking in our woods. On our property, there are a bunch of places that would be great for building forts when the kids get bigger, and making fairy houses - and we really, really look forward to doing those things as a family.

Brandon: We knew early in our relationship that we really wanted children. We talked about it and felt very positive about welcoming a child through adoption into our lives, and just felt that would be a part of our lives together. I grew up with my younger sister having been brought into our family through adoption when I was 7. We found out several years ago that my older sister lived nearby. She was placed in adoption by my mother when she was very young. We've reconnected with her over the last few years and that's been a fascinating journey with her. But there's just a lot of people in family and friends and cousins, that have adopted children - and it's just going to be part of our lives.

Katrina: As parents, it's really important to us to create a supportive environment for our children, but also we want to leave a lot of time for play and creativity - and it's really important to us that they become independent thinkers and feel really confident in themselves.

Brandon: We have a wide circle of family and friends that are enriched through adoption and blended families. They represent a diversity of cultures, political viewpoints, religions, and interests.

Katrina: We feel pretty confident that whatever our children are like, or whatever interests they develop throughout their lives, we're going be able to provide them with positive role models.

Katrina: As you are making the decisions for you and your child, we really want to thank you for taking the time to watch our video and to read our profile, and get to know a little bit about us; and if we feel like the right fit for you than we really look forward to you contacting us through Friends in Adoption. We're sending you thoughts of peace and love.

Brandon: Thank you. Thank you very much.

About Us

Hello from Vermont! We promise to treat you respectfully and to respect the choices you make for you and your child knowing whatever decision you come to will be rooted in love. From very early in our relationship we knew adopting would be a part of our lives. We have many personal experiences of adoption and are very excited to grow our family through adoption. As parents we have developed a supportive, creative and nature-connected home, built on a foundation of love and trust. We look forward to potentially entering this journey with you! — Brandon, Katrina & Xander

If you are considering adoption for your child, please read Brandon, Katrina & Xander's complete adoption profile, with beautiful photos and their personal story, by clicking on the link below:

Brandon and Katrina's Adoption Profile | 1-800-982-3678 | Friends in Adoption | http://www.friendsinadoption.org

Brandon and Katrina's Adoption Profile | 1-800-982-3678 | Friends in Adoption | http://www.friendsinadoption.org

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Video: Deana, Ryan and Ian

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Deana, Ryan and Ian's Adoption Profile Video Transcript:

Deana: Hi I’m Deana

Ryan: I’m Ryan

Ian: Hi I’m Ian

Deana: And we want to thank you for taking time to watch our video. We know that in our profile we talk a lot about who we are as individuals and as a family but in this video we really want to show you what we are like as parents and the kinds of things we like doing.

Ryan: Deana and I have been married for almost 11 years, we currently live in Central New York where we both grew up and recently built a house together. And this little guy was born in 2010 and we both absolutely love being parents and can’t wait to expand our family through adoption.

Deana: I love being a mom, and getting to spend time playing with Ian and reading together and watching him laugh and change and grow. He asks such great questions, and every moment is a new adventure. I have been a first grade teacher for the past 9 years, and really enjoy working with little ones. They make me smile every day and I get so much joy from what they accomplish in one short year. I’m also fortunate to have summers off and lots of vacations to spend with my own family. I love animals and reading – anything from US Weekly to Harry Potter to the classics. It sounds cliché but my favorite thing is just having fun with my family and spending time together.

Ryan: I really love kids and have such a great time playing with Ian and my nephews. I don’t care how goofy or silly I look as long as we’re all laughing and having fun. It’s really important for me to be an involved dad and luckily I work for an advertising agency that’s very family oriented and gives me the flexibility to be home every night on time to cook dinner and give Ian his bath. I love being part of his school activities and helping coach his t-ball team. I also love watching and playing most sports.

Ian: Hi I’m Ian, I’m five years old and I started Kindergarten.

Deana: What are some things you love?

Ian: Ninja Turtles, my cousins and my cat Scout.

Deana: What do you love about your cat Scout?

Ian: He’s so cute and I love hugging him every day I come home.

Ryan: Deana and I can’t wait to expand our family through adoption.

Deana: I can’t safely get pregnant again, but adoption has been a part of both of our families and we both know that we have so much love in our hearts to give to another child and our extended families can’t wait to have another little one around to hug and kiss and spoil. And we just can’t wait to welcome that special little someone.

Deana: We live in a suburban neighborhood with many kids. We love spending time at home playing games and watching movies. Family time is not only a priority for us, but it’s something we just really love doing.

Ryan: In the summer, we spend time at my parent’s summer house on the lake. The kids love swimming, fishing, going on creek adventures, and going out on the boat. We are fortunate to live near both of our families, and we do a lot of activities with my sisters and their kids.

Deana: We love doing fun things on the weekend – mini-golf, the zoo, Dave & Busters, museums, we love going apple and pumpkin picking, and building snowmen in the winter. We get to really experience all four seasons in Central New York and we take full advantage of that.

Ryan: As parents, we want our kids to be curious, to love learning, but also to play and have fun. We always try to remember what it’s like to be a kid.

Deana: We want our children to dream big and know that we will always support them in whatever they do. Most of all we want them to feel surrounded by love, and to always know how much they mean to us.

Deana: Thanks again for taking the time to watch our video. We know that if you do choose adoption we may not be the family that you select it may be one of the other great Friends in Adoption families, but if you do choose us please know that we will always speak lovingly about your child’s birth story and the love and the courage that went into your choice and we wish you much peace and comfort in your decision.

Ryan: Thanks again for taking the time to watch our video.

Ryan, Deana, and Ian: Bye

About Us

HELLO! We are Deana, Ryan and Ian. We hope that this video gives you a glimpse of who we are as a family. In our home, we laugh often, act silly, eat minion-shaped pancakes, cuddle for bedtime stories, pretend to be ninja turtles, value kindness, and love with all our hearts. We understand that as you explore adoption profiles you are faced with a difficult decision, and we wish you comfort in whatever choice you make. Thank you for taking the time to learn more about us. To learn more about us, please read our adoption profile. Thank you.

If you are considering adoption for your child, please read Deana, Ryan & Ian's complete adoption profile, with beautiful photos and their personal story, by clicking on the link below:

Deana, Ryan and Ian's Adoption Profile | 1-800-982-3678 | Friends in Adoption | http://www.friendsinadoption.org

Deana, Ryan and their son Ian hope to adopt a child and grow their family.

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Birth Mother’s Day Celebration on May 7th, 2016

Saturday, May 7th is Birth Mother’s Day. Circle of Love, an adoption support group for birth parents, would like to celebrate and honor the amazing women that birth mothers are. Please join us for a catered lunch and great conversation on Saturday, May 7th at 11:30am in Clifton Park, NY.

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Video: Scott and Sarah, part 2

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About Us

Hi! Thank you so much for taking the time to view our adoption profile! We hope the information and photos we’ve put together here will give you an idea of the life we live, and the home and family we would love to share with a child. We can’t begin to guess what events and decisions have brought you here, but we are so glad you’ve decided to give us a look. — Scott & Sarah

If you are considering adoption for your child, please read Scott & Sarah's complete adoption profile, with beautiful photos and their personal story, by clicking on the link below:

Scott and Sarah's Adoption Profile | 1-800-982-3678 | Friends in Adoption | http://www.friendsinadoption.org

Scott and Sarah look forward to adopting!

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Video: Scott and Sarah

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Scott and Sarah Adoption Profile Video Transcript:

Sarah: Hi, I'm Sarah,

Scott: and I'm Scott,

Sarah: and this is Lucky... and we are hoping that this video will give you a little insight into our lives, and the things that we do, and who we are, and the kind of life we would like to share with a child.

Scott: Music is always been a huge part of our relationship. Sarah and I met playing music a while ago. She's been playing since she was a young child, and myself as well. We both come from musical families and we're looking forward to the opportunity of sharing some musical talents with a child.

We live off the beaten path on a dirt road, a private dirt road in Vermont, so this means that we get to listen to the wildlife - we can hear the barred owls calling at night. We can watch our neighbors come through on horseback, there's birds in the yard, and we can see the sun set through the pine trees. It's nice.

Sarah: We live in a cozy little home up in the hills, in the woods. It used to be... originally was built as a hunting cabin, but it's been converted into a home and we've put a lot of effort into fixing things up since we bought it, making it more homelike and it still has that feel that it had when we got here of a cozy cabin, which we really like.

So we think it's really important to know where your food is coming from, and we're really lucky that we live around a lot of farmers where we can buy not only vegetables but meat when we need to. We raise our own vegetables - we have a huge garden. We raise our own chickens for eggs and meat. Scott does a lot of hunting, for deer and he goes out during turkey season too. He does fishing.

Scott: Well, I work as a chef. I've been cooking since I was about 17 years old - actually I started cooking when I was about 5 or 6 when I started pulling the pots and pans out of our cupboards when I was just a child. (laughs) But what I really like to do, what I've focused on lately is I've been starting a small pasta business, making my own fresh ravioli and different types of pastas: fettuccine and pappardelle and things like that, selling them at the local farmers' market. I like to do classes - I've taught classes for... cooking classes for adults and for children. Cooking classes with children are always great fun because they're so open-minded and like to have fun and they really take to cooking tremendously which is what I really enjoy.

Sarah: We are really fortunate in that we have the opportunity to go to Rhode Island in the summer. My parents have a home pretty close to the beach and I've been going there since I was a really young kid. We always plan vacation so that we can hang out with my siblings and my aunts and uncles and my cousins. We can swim, play on the beach with family. There's a pond nearby so Scott can take his Sunfish sailboat down there or we can go kayaking if there's not enough wind for sailing. It's a great place to learn how to paddle or sail because it's it's small and shallow and really safe.

So we are used to making goofy videos with costumes that we send to our family over the Internet. Making this serious one was has actually been a little difficult for us... but we are really looking forward to bringing a child into our family and we hope that comes across here. We wish you the best in making your decision and we know whatever you decide will be what's right for you.

Scott: Thank you.

Sarah: Thank you. Bye!

About Us

Hi! Thank you so much for taking the time to view our adoption profile! We hope the information and photos we’ve put together here will give you an idea of the life we live, and the home and family we would love to share with a child. We can’t begin to guess what events and decisions have brought you here, but we are so glad you’ve decided to give us a look. — Scott & Sarah

If you are considering adoption for your child, please read Scott & Sarah's complete adoption profile, with beautiful photos and their personal story, by clicking on the link below:

Scott and Sarah's Adoption Profile | 1-800-982-3678 | Friends in Adoption | http://www.friendsinadoption.org

Scott and Sarah look forward to adopting!

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Video: Victor and Yumna

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Victor and Yumna Adoption Profile Video Transcript:

Yumna: Hi, I’m Yumna.

Victor: And I’m Victor.

Yumna: Thanks for looking at our video. We’re very keen to adopt a child, and we thought we’d tell you a bit about our selves, our lives, our values, and what we want for a child.

Victor: We’re both teachers. We live in Vermont, and we both teach at a college there, a small college in rural Vermont.

Yumna: And we both teach English, teach literature. That’s what brought us together, and it’s something we would really like to share with a child.

Victor: Education is one of the things that we value… My grandfather read to me every night, and my mother as well. I started out as a high school English teacher in Baltimore city, before moving to Vermont with Yumna to teach college there.

Yumna: We love the outdoors. Domino is always begging us for walks so we go for hikes with him in the woods right next to our house.

Victor: Domino is our dog.

Yumna: Yes. And we are lucky to live in a town that has so many cultural events thanks to the college, but we actually have a place in Montreal and we appreciate that for its cultural diversity.

Victor: In the summers there are a lot of outdoor festivals that we like to attend. And in the park just in front of our building there is a Christmas fair in which they sell trees and they also have local music groups that come and play traditional Quebecois music, which I am particularly fond of. I play the violin, not too well, but I’ve played since I was a child, and it’s one of the things that I’d like to do with a child of my own—to share my appreciation of music.

Yumna: We have friends who have children and one of the things that we really enjoy doing is going for walks with them, and having picnics with them, and meals with them, so we would join in with a child, into a circle of friends that we already have who have children. We would want to raise a child to really pursue his or her own interests, and we would try our best to provide an environment that will help them do that.

Norma: Hi, I’m Norma. I’m a friend of Yumna and Victor’s, and I’ve known them for many years now, and know them quite well. They’ve been dedicated long-time friends, always supportive, always caring. I know how much they want a child, and want to care for and look after a child, and they would make amazing parents. It’s evident from the friendships that they have, from their care for their dog, their care for their living space, and everyone who knows them.

Yumna: So thank you for watching this video. We hope that you’ll reach out to us.

Victor: We’d love to talk to you.

Yumna: Yes, we’d love to talk with you more, we’d love to meet you, and you can reach us easily through Friends In Adoption.

Victor: Thank you.

About Us

Hello! We are Victor and Yumna. We honor your strength and courage as you consider the many choices before you. Thank you for taking the time to learn a bit about us. We are eager to welcome a child into our family to cherish and to share our love, laughter, and curiosity about the world. In these pages of our adoption profile, we want to give you a sense of who we are. We look forward to hearing from you should you decide to pursue an adoption plan with us. — Victor & Yumna

If you are considering adoption for your child, please read Victor & Yumna's complete adoption profile, with beautiful photos and their personal story, by clicking on the link below:

Victor and Yumna's Adoption Profile | 1-800-982-3678 | Friends in Adoption | http://www.friendsinadoption.org

Victor and Yumna are looking forward to adopting a child!

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Merry Christmas!

Hello Friends ~FIA received a Holiday card this year that summed up everything we hoped to say in our annual holiday note.To All  ~"Let there beLAUGHTER JOY SMILES PEACE HOPE~wishing you happiness that never ends."We wish to have all experience LAUGHTER, JOY, AND SMILIES in your life's.   To our  waiting families, it is our HOPE that  your baby will...
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AmazonSmile Brings a SMILE to FIA!

On #GivingTuesday, please make a donation to Friends in Adoption, or sign up with AmazonSmile & Amazon will donate 0.5% of the price of your eligible purchases to Friends In Adoption whenever you shop on AmazonSmile!

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Thinking about adoption? Register for the 2015 APC Adoption Conference

One of the biggest and most helpful adoption education events of the year is coming up on Sunday, November 22, 2015 from 8 a.m. – 5 p.m. at St. Francis College in Brooklyn, NY. The Adoptive Parents Committee, Inc. (APC) is proud to announce its 35th Annual APC Adoption Conference. More than 500 people are expected to attend this all-day event. There will be more than 70 workshops given in five sessions.

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Annual Giving More Through Adoption Birth Mother Retreat

Each birth mother is as unique as the circumstances leading to that woman’s choice to place her child for adoption. One common thread for birth/first mothers is that adoption is a life-long decision. Life post-adoption is a journey, often with ups and downs, and support along that journey is very helpful. Many women find support in birth mother support groups, and FIA is pleased to spread the word about an upcoming birth mother retreat on November 13-14, 2015, in Clifton Park, NY!

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FIA Night at the Albany Devils’ Hockey Game – Sunday 11/01/15

Please come join Friends in Adoption (FIA) family and friends to celebrate National Adoption Month and a great Albany Devils' hockey game vs. the Toronto Marlies on Sunday, November 1, 2015 at 3pm. This Adoption and Foster Families Group Outing event is both a great networking and post-adoption opportunity to celebrate positive adoption connections.

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Video: Julie and Mark

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Video Transcript:

Julie: Hi, I’m Julie

Mark: and I’m Mark

Julie: Thank you so much for looking at our video, which is actually filmed in our home. We would love to raise a child here, any child in need of adoption, and in need of a loving family. We live in a quiet neighborhood on a pretty and safe block, with lots of families and children, and we would love to raise that child here.
We both come from big families. We have lots of cousins and nieces and nephews, and we would love for that child to be apart of the family and be surrounded by all of that love and support.

Mark: Julie is very kind and nurturing, and I know she would make a great mother.

Julie: Mark is actually a great guy. He is patient, loving and kind. I know in my heart he’d make a great father and a great role model. Thank you again so much for looking at our video. We know it’s a hard decision for you. Hopefully, you choose the right adoption plan that best fits you. God bless you and we wish you peace and happiness. Thanks again!

Mark: Thank you!

About Us

Hello! We hope that our story will give you an idea of who we are, who our family is, as well as all the love that would surround a child in our lives. We would treasure having a child to love, protect, guide and nurture. We admire your courage and strength as you consider adoption for your child. From the bottom of our hearts, we want to thank you for considering our adoption brochure. We wish you love and peace. To learn more about us, please read our adoption profile. Thank you.

If you are considering adoption for your child, please read Julie & Mark's complete adoption profile, with beautiful photos and their personal story, by clicking on the link below:

Julie and Mark are looking forward to adopting a child!

Julie and Mark are looking forward to adopting a child!

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Video: Robert, Nathan and Virginia

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Video Transcript:

Nathan: Hi, I’m Nathan.

Robert: And I am Robert.

Virginia: And I’m Virginia.

Nathan: So by now we figured you’ve looked at our profile, you've learned a lot about us, about us as individuals, as a couple, as a family with our daughter, and our extended families, our friends, our home, all the different things we like to do — but this video gives you a chance to hear us and see us moving, and us a chance to tell you even a little more about ourselves.

Robert: We're really excited to expand our family. We really enjoy being parents and we hope to become parents again. We love all aspects, i think, of parenting — even some of the aspects that people don’t really like but we like them!

Nathan: Yeah, having a child can be a handful but you take the good with the bad and really all of it is kind of a roller coaster ride that is a lot of fun. Really, in the end. I mean, we love roller coasters so actually any roller coaster ride would be great for us.

Robert: That’s true.

Nathan: But, the child roller coaster ride is full of more ups and downs than a regular roller coaster.

Robert: We’re very fortunate to have jobs that allows us to spend a lot of time with our family. I work at Harvard Medical school as an educator and I’m always able to come home when I need to and to spend a lot of quality time with our daughter.

Nathan: And I’m a TV producer and I work very close by and I’m able to go to events at our daughter’s school, which I think is a really important thing for us to do as parents — Be there for the first day of school, pickup, whatever. Anyways, we’ve been talking about being parents, why don’t we bring Virginia in to meet you!

Nathan: How old are you going to be soon?

Virginia: Five! I got this at the party that I had yesterday.

Nathan: Yeah…

Virginia: *whispers* Who are you making it for?

Nathan: What did you say?

Virginia: *whispers* Who are you making it for?

Nathan: For what?

Virginia: *whispers* The video.

Nathan: Oh, we’re making this for a birth mommy. Just like your birth mommy.

Virginia: *whispers* — Inaudible —

Nathan: Yeah, that may have a baby that we make part of our family. Would you like to have a little baby in our family?

Virginia: Yeah! And I will give her this!

Nathan: Or him.

Virginia: Or him or her, this.

Nathan: That would be nice. Alright honey, we love you very much and we’re happy you’re part of the video and part of our family. So we hope to hear from you.

Robert: Bye!

Nathan: Bye! Want to wave Virginia? Bye!

Virginia: Bye, I love you!

About Us

HELLO! We’re Robert, Nathan and Virginia and we are so glad that you’re taking some time to read about us. Through the gift of adoption, we were blessed with our wonderful, beautiful daughter who has brought incredible joy to our lives. We’re all ready to share our lives and adventures with another special child and hope that from reading our adoption profile, you’ll learn what a caring, loving and fun family we are. We gratefully welcome the chance to meet you.

Virginia came home to us through the gift of adoption in 2010. She transformed our lives more than we ever expected. We truly appreciate every day as parents. Our easy-going nature and ability to adapt to the challenges of life have helped us make a home that encourages creativity, joy, compassion and an abundance of love.

If you are considering adoption for your child, please read Robert, Nathan & Virginia's complete adoption profile, with beautiful photos and their personal story, by clicking on the link below:

Robert, Nathan and Virginia hope to adopt a child and grow their family.

Robert, Nathan and Virginia hope to adopt a child and grow their family.

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Resilience in Adoption

The words resilience and adoption go hand in hand. Each person in the adoption circle: birth parent, adoptive parent, and child, need resilience because adoption by its nature involves the experience of profound loss. Resilience also allows people to experience healing and profound peace, joy and love.

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Love wins!

Friends in Adoption is thrilled with today's SCOTUS decision on Marriage equality. We congratulate all of our gay, lesbian, transgender and ALL TYPES of families in this very important, historic victory today! Love wins, all families win, all children win!

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When is adoption “done right?”

When is adoption “done right?” Sometimes it is easier to think about the ways something can be “done wrong” in order to be sure we get it right. Any time adoption is not informed by respect and truth, or when it is not voluntary for a placing parent, it is done wrong. Any time adoption moves forward without regard for the (...)

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