Category Archives: FAQs by Pregnant Women

The Adoption Process from the Expectant Mother’s Perspective

What is it really like to decide on adoption, look through parent profiles to choose a family, and place your child in their arms—and how can the adoption process better serve these women? Article - by Barbara Herel This piece has valuable insights from both Dawn Smith-Pliner and the birthmothers. I often think back to...
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How do I give my baby up for adoption?

"How do I give up my baby for adoption?" is a very common question we hear. — Adoption is not giving up on a child. Adoption is a selfless act of love for the child. Read more in our FAQs.

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FAQ: I don’t know anything about open adoption. Can you tell me about it?

Q: I don't know anything about open adoption. Can you tell me about it? A: Open adoption enables communication between expectant/birth parents and adoptive birth parents before and/or after placement of a child with the adoptive family. Open adoption may include sharing information, letters, emails, calls, texts, and or face-to face visits. . . .

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What’s the difference between open adoption and closed adoption?

Q: What's the difference between Open Adoption and Closed Adoption? A: Open Adoption vs Closed Adoption means, among many other factors, that there are different levels of post-adoption contact. In open adoption, there is an ongoing direct relationship between the child and the birth family. . . .

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FAQ: I am afraid of being judged . . . if I call your agency, what can I expect?

Q: I am afraid of being judged . . . if I call your agency, what can I expect? A: At FIA, we pledge to not judge you! No matter your circumstance, we are here to listen and not judge. We know it’s hard to talk about personal issues with a stranger, but sometimes it is easier than to talk with people who are trying to influence you to do a certain thing. ...

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I think I would like a closed adoption. Can FIA help me?

Q: I think I would like a closed adoption. Can FIA help me? A: Yes! Friends in Adoption (FIA) strongly respects the birth parents’ wishes regarding whether or not there will be post-adoption contact with the adoptive family. FIA takes a person’s right to privacy very seriously and takes measures to assure all adoptions are done in a respectful and compassionate manner. . . .

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FAQ: What was it like to give up your baby?

Q: "What was it like to give up your baby? Did you get to see him/her? At any stage, did you feel any guilt or selfishness?" A: "Placing my child for adoption was a decision I had thought about a lot while I was pregnant and I knew that's what I wanted for my baby. I was unable to give him or her all that they needed. I was lucky and got to meet the adoptive parents that I...

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FAQ: Pregnant and Not Sure What to Do

Hi, I am 19 years old, and I am pregnant with my first baby girl and I am due very soon. I am very scared because I am not sure what to do. I am considering adoption, but my family and friends are not.

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