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Friends in Adoption offers Lifelong Connections!

Friends in Adoption offers Lifelong Connections! November is National Adoption Month, and before it comes to a close, it’s important to us to remind our alumni and prospective adoptive parents of the full range of services provided by Friends in Adoption. In particular, we want to emphasize our commitment to providing our alumni families with lifelong support, because we believe the availability of post-adoption services promotes positive outcomes and experiences for all those touched by adoption.… Read More

Spectrum News converses with Friends in Adoption!

Spectrum News converses with Friends in Adoption! Matt Hunter, reporter with Spectrum News, spent an afternoon interviewing FIA alumni Colby and Tifanie and Ron and Katharine, about their experiences with being new parents. Matt also spoke with Patty Smith, FIA’s Case Manager and Community Outreach Provider working out of Glenville, Schenectady County, NY.… Read More

November is National Adoption Awareness Month!

November is National Adoption Month! We hope you celebrate this unique month by spreading positive messages about adoption! This month and every month, Friends in Adoption is always committed to the compassionate treatment of everyone involved in the adoption process; the adoptive families and pregnant women/couples making an adoption plan, while keeping the central focus on the needs of each child.… Read More

Understanding the Language of Adoption

Understanding the Language of Adoption Friends in Adoption (FIA) is committed to empowering individuals and families during all stages of the adoption process and throughout their lives. FIA promotes a compassionate approach to inclusive and open adoptions, and demystifying the language of adoption furthers our mission. The words we choose shape how we, and those around us, think about situations … Read More

This Is Me… Part Three ~ By: Kayleigh Putnam

If you’re just tuning in to my Friends In Adoption (FIA) blog, my first blog talks about my adoption and how I felt growing up as an adopted child. My second blog is about how I met my biological sister (who I just recently found out existed!) when she was visiting our aunt in Rhode Island. It was an incredible experience and one of the best days of my life. Today, I will tell you about how I met my mother. … Read More

All About Friends in Adoption’s Get Acquainted Workshop

The Get Acquainted Workshop (GAW) is an in-depth educational opportunity for folks interested learning more about becoming adoptive parents. It’s a chance to learn all about the adoption process firsthand with our agency and to ask all of your adoption questions. The GAW is required for all prospective adoptive families who wish to work with Friends in Adoption, and is often the beginning of the relationship between our agency and you!… Read More

Seems like just yesterday ~ by: Lisa, Tina, Ben, & Zach

We have been thinking about FIA a lot over the past few months. As Ben approaches his 18th birthday and high school graduation, we are reminded everyday how grateful we are for the major role FIA played in creating our family. While Ben has grown into an incredible young man, it still sometimes seems like just yesterday, we were attending our first FIA workshop and dreaming of starting a family! You will forever hold a place in our hearts! With Love,
Lisa, Tina, Ben & Zach… Read More

Gratitude

Gratitude – the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness. As the Founding Director of Friends in Adoption for inching up to 40 years, I am eternally grateful for the gifts of an incredible staff, a dedicated Board of Directors, all of the attorneys, social workers and counselors who support the work we do and my ever growing Friends in Adoption family. In gratitude to all, Dawn… Read More

Happy Hanukkah 2018

Happy Chanukah!
To all of our friends, families, and prospective adoptive families who celebrate the beautiful Festival of Lights!
As you light each Hanukkah candle, may it shed a lovely ray of light and hope and promise
on you and yours today….
—from all of us at Friends in Adoption… Read More

Friends in Adoption attends: “This is Us: Adoption in the REAL World”

Friends in Adoption attends: “This is Us: Adoption in the REAL World” -by Deirdre Graham, Community Outreach Manager A couple weeks ago I was lucky enough to attend: “This is Us; Adoption in the REAL World”, a panel co-moderated by April Dinwoodie, Chief Executive of the Donaldson Adoption Institute (DAI), and Richard Heyl de Ortiz, Executive Director of the Adoptive and … Read More

A Summer Letter From Dawn

FIA’S 35TH ANNUAL PICNIC — A JOYFUL DAY OF CELEBRATION We now have 3 generations of FIA families in attendance at the picnic. Children that were placed through FIA bring their partners and children along with their birth and adoptive families; young adults placed attend on their own just to stay connected; reunions happen at the picnic- truly a day … Read More

In Honor of Birth Mother’s Day ~ 2017

Birth Mother’s Day is just around the corner – May 13th, 2017! In honor of Birth Mother’s Day, FIA is sharing a story from one of our many special families. “We are Kathy and Dave (not pictured), we adopted Lucy 5 years ago. We have a very open adoption with her birth mother and her family. We could not be … Read More

Our future needs us

To All of our LGBTQ+ Families and to the LGBTQ families throughout the country, My heart breaks for our children. As parents we must remain strong and united. We must show our children through action that we will fight for their rights. We will show them by example how to live life in kindness and respect. (read more)… Read More

Annual Giving More Through Adoption Birth Mother Retreat

Each birth mother is as unique as the circumstances leading to that woman’s choice to place her child for adoption. One common thread for birth/first mothers is that adoption is a life-long decision. Life post-adoption is a journey, often with ups and downs, and support along that journey is very helpful. Many women find support in birth mother support groups, and FIA is pleased to spread the word about an upcoming birth mother retreat on November 11-12, 2016, in Clifton Park, NY!… Read More

The Adoption Process from the Expectant Mother’s Perspective

What is it really like to decide on adoption, look through parent profiles to choose a family, and place your child in their arms—and how can the adoption process better serve these women? Article – by Barbara Herel This piece has valuable insights from both Dawn Smith-Pliner and the birthmothers. I often think back to my domestic adoption process as … Read More

Honoring all Fathers

Friends in Adoption honors all fathers – birth, adoptive, and future dads – on this special day. Thank you to all the devoted, caring, loving, supportive, nurturing fathers, whether birth or adoptive. You are special! Friends in Adoption celebrates you!… Read More

Merry Christmas!

Hello Friends ~ FIA received a Holiday card this year that summed up everything we hoped to say in our annual holiday note. To All  ~ “Let there be LAUGHTER JOY SMILES PEACE HOPE ~wishing you happiness that never ends.” We wish to have all experience LAUGHTER, JOY, AND SMILIES in your life’s.   To our  waiting families, it is our … Read More

Love wins!

Friends in Adoption is thrilled with today’s SCOTUS decision on Marriage equality. We congratulate all of our gay, lesbian, transgender and ALL TYPES of families in this very important, historic victory today! Love wins, all families win, all children win!… Read More

When is adoption “done right?”

When is adoption “done right?” Sometimes it is easier to think about the ways something can be “done wrong” in order to be sure we get it right. Any time adoption is not informed by respect and truth, or when it is not voluntary for a placing parent, it is done wrong. Any time adoption moves forward without regard for the (…)… Read More

Thank you Senator Gillibrand for “Every Child Deserves a Family”

LGBTQ & Adoption: “Every Child Deserves a Family” — New York Senator Kirsten Gillibrand has introduced federal legislation that would ensure that LGBTQ individuals and couples have the same adoption rights as heterosexual individuals and couples do. In the news, two Friends in Adoption (FIA) families were recently featured in stories related to this proposed law. … Read More

FAQ: Can I Adopt a Child If I Have a Health Condition?

Q: Can I Adopt a Child If I Have a Health Condition? A: Friends in Adoption is occasionally asked by a prospective adoptive parent if they would be disqualified from adopting a child because of a health condition, either past or present. Like a prospective biological parent, having a health condition does not automatically disqualify a prospective adoptive parent from being…… Read More

Happy Chanukah!

Happy Chanukah to all of our friends, families, and prospective adoptive families who celebrate the beautiful Festival of Lights! As you light each Hanukkah candle, may it shed a lovely ray of light and hope and promise on you and yours today…. From all of us at Friends in Adoption.

Are you Hoping to become a Parent Through Adoption?

The American Academy of Adoption Attorneys is offering a free and open to the public Family Building Expo. Stop by the Friends in Adoption table and say hello to Dawn and Nan! “Creating Your Child’s Story” Saturday, September 20, 2014, 9:30 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. Four Seasons Hotel, One Logan Square, Philadelphia Workshops by the leading national legal experts about … Read More

Adoption Information in Any Language

Each year, FIA is asked by health care professionals and other advocates if we can assist a woman or couple with an adoption plan if they do not speak English. The answer is and has been, YES!  Women’s issues are women’s issues, regardless of spoken language, and compassionate adoption is not limited only to those who speak English. Women and couples for whom English is not their first language may be considering adoption as an option for an unplanned pregnancy. Friends in Adoption is happy to work with anyone interested in learning more about adoption regardless of communication style or language.… Read More

2014 AAAA Conference Photos

Dawn and Nan recently attended the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys (AAAA) Conference in New Orleans and networked with adoption attorneys and professionals all over the country. FIA appreciates working with many of our AAAA friends!… Read More

Robert Klose Adoption Quote

I realized at the start that whether a child is biological or adopted, one does not know all the ingredients in the package. That is what growth is all about. A child is the slowest flower in the world, opening petal by petal, revealing the developing personality within. -Robert Klose, Adoptive parent

Language in Adoption: What’s in a name?

Language in Adoption: What’s in a name? by Dawn Smith Pliner, Founding Director, Friends in Adoption Birthmom? First mom? Natural mom? Does that make me an Adoptive mom? A Second mom? Or an Unnatural mom? Language is powerful — it can be helpful and it can be hurtful. Many years ago I called a pregnant woman who was considering adoption a … Read More

A New Friend

Nan and I recently had the honor of meeting Meg, the Founder and Executive Director of Plants for Patients. I knew our organizations were soul mates when I read from their website this paragraph: “Plants for Patients is an idea; it’s a framework for doing good work in our communities. The program identifies as neither pro-choice nor anti-abortion, but exists in the space between, a space we call pro-compassion. This framework allows us to warmly welcome people of differing views, beliefs and opinions to support women in need.” … Read More

From Hollywood to Downton Abbey… Adoption on the Screen

Modern-FamilyFor as long as it took adoption to change over the past hundred years, it has taken popular media even longer to catch on to accurate depictions of adoption in film and television. Until the television show Modern Family came out with Cam and Mitchell adopting internationally and then going through the process to adopt domestically, there was virtually no real currency regarding the issues around adoption on television.… Read More

Please HELP Make Adoption Tax Credit Permanent!

Friends in Adoption (FIA) is a member organization of The Adoption Tax Credit Working Group. We are helping to spread the word about the need for continued advocacy for a PERMANENT, REFUNDABLE adoption tax credit through a Grassroots Advocacy Campaign. Please help! The Goal? The Adoption Tax Credit Working Group (ATCWG) would like to obtain 30 Co-Sponsors on the Adoption … Read More

Press Release: “FIA receives HRC’s All Children – All Families Seal of Recognition”

Friends in Adoption (FIA), a licensed, non-profit adoption agency, recently received the Human Rights Campaign Foundation’s All Children – All Families Seal of Recognition as a 2014 Leader in Supporting and Serving LGBT Families. Since its inception in 1982, FIA was one of the pioneer agencies in welcoming all families to adoption and from its early years has promoted adoption by qualified adoptive parents regardless of their sexual orientation. Upon learning about the Human Rights Campaign Foundation (HRC) All Children – All Families cultural competency certification, FIA enthusiastically signed on to participate.… Read More

FIA Needs Your Photos for the FIA: Keep It Real Project

FIA Introduces…

The Keep it Real Project: Real Adoptions. Real People. Real Images.

Calling All FIA Family Members!

FIA loves featuring photos of REAL FIA ALUMNI. Portraying actual FIA family members (birth and adoptive) in our print and electronic publications, as opposed to using stock photos, are the only way to keep it real! If you and/or your family members are interested in being a part of this exciting project, please click on the link below and from there you will be able to send us your best 1-3 family photos…… Read More

Share the Love

Friends in Adoption Announces the 1st Annual SHARE THE LOVE Campaign **UPDATE Feb 14, 2014** A big Valentine’s Day hug to all those that have contributed to the 1st Annual FIA Share the Love Campaign. The FIA family continues to grow with the addition of four new families created so far in 2014! A raffle winner drawn from participants will … Read More

Poem – Legacy of an Adopted Child

Adopted Children Are Product Of Two Different Kinds Of Love By Abigail Van Buren | Dear Abby – Wed, Mar 6, 2013 DEAR ABBY: While cleaning out my attic yesterday, I found a letter that my daughter wrote to you a few years ago when she was 13. She was responding to a poem that had appeared in your column, “Legacy of … Read More

Consider a Donation to Friends in Adoption

As you plan for your year-end contributions, please consider donating to Friends in Adoption (FIA) to help us continue our lifelong work supporting the family of adoption, and for continuing to serve as a community resource for adoption advocacy and education. Your generous financial support, along with your voices, greatly help advance this important work and are appreciated! FIA is a not-for-profit agency. We rely in part on the generous gifts of our alumni, supporters, and friends. All contributions are tax-deductible. FIA is doing more now than ever before to create and care for families created through Compassionate Adoption. Thank you, in advance, for your generosity!… Read More

FIA and HRC: All Children – All Families

Friends in Adoption (FIA) was one of the pioneer agencies in welcoming all families to the family of adoption and from its early years has promoted adoption by lesbian and gay parents. Upon learning about the Human Rights Coalition (HRC) All Children – All Families cultural competency certification, FIA enthusiastically signed on to participate. HRC’s All Children – All Families … Read More

Press Release: “FIA defends reproductive rights and highlights best practice to celebrate National Adoption Awareness Month”

Friends in Adoption, licensed non-profit agency, defends reproductive rights and highlights best practice to celebrate November — National Adoption Awareness Month. FIA believes it is important for women and couples facing a pregnancy decision to learn about all their legal options – knowing that they may be considering parenting, adoption, or abortion – and its ethical approach is to listen and provide information and support to those individuals, without telling them which decision they should make.… Read More

Exciting News – We’ve Moved!

EXCITING NEWS It’s official ~ FIA’s main office is now located in Poultney, Vermont. Our new mailing address: 212 Main Street Poultney, Vermont 05764 Our telephone and fax numbers remain the same. Call 1-800-98-ADOPT (1-800-982-3678) to reach us. ~ Poultney gives a warm welcome to Friends in Adoption (FIA). Surrounded by an alternative high school across the street, a college … Read More

FAQ: I don’t know anything about open adoption. Can you tell me about it?

Q: I don’t know anything about open adoption. Can you tell me about it? A: Open adoption enables communication between expectant/birth parents and adoptive birth parents before and/or after placement of a child with the adoptive family. Open adoption may include sharing information, letters, emails, calls, texts, and or face-to face visits…… Read More

What’s the difference between open adoption and closed adoption?

Q: What’s the difference between Open Adoption and Closed Adoption? A: Open Adoption vs Closed Adoption means, among many other factors, that there are different levels of post-adoption contact. In open adoption, there is an ongoing direct relationship between the child and the birth family…… Read More

FAQ: What is open adoption and are all adoptions with FIA open?

Q: What is open adoption and are all adoptions with FIA open? A: Open adoption generally means there is an ongoing direct relationship between the child and the birth family. FIA adheres to “Hospitious Adoption”. Jim Gritter, author of Hospitious Adoption takes the approach that practicing goodwill, respect, and courage within the realm of adoption makes the process unfold more smoothly and enriches children’s lives… Read More

FAQ: What is the average cost of an adoption through FIA?

Q: What is the average cost of an adoption through FIA? A: The cost of an adoption averages between $25,000 and $45,000. Costs generally incurred by the adopting couple/single are: agency fee, home study fees, advertising and outreach fees, counseling fees, legal fees, telephone and travel expenses, and in some cases medical expenses… Read More

FAQ: I am afraid of being judged . . . if I call your agency, what can I expect?

Q: I am afraid of being judged . . . if I call your agency, what can I expect? A: At FIA, we pledge to not judge you! No matter your circumstance, we are here to listen and not judge. We know it’s hard to talk about personal issues with a stranger, but sometimes it is easier than to talk with people who are trying to influence you to do a certain thing. …… Read More

FAQ: I think I would like a closed adoption. Can FIA help me?

Q: I think I would like a closed adoption. Can FIA help me? A: Yes! Friends in Adoption (FIA) strongly respects the birth parents’ wishes regarding whether or not there will be post-adoption contact with the adoptive family. FIA takes a person’s right to privacy very seriously and takes measures to assure all adoptions are done in a respectful and compassionate manner… Read More

Testimonial from Laurie, Rob & Angelina

Dear FIA Friends, We are enjoying to the fullest having Angelina in our life! We are so grateful to you all for your help and support in bringing Angelina to us. She is such a happy, playful, exuberant baby, now 16 months old, delighting in the snow and her new found mobility – walking, running, dancing, climbing to her heart’s … Read More

Testimonial by Bonnie & Stephen

“My husband and I truly enjoyed working with Beth at FIA, just speaking with her would make things okay. The moment that stays in my mind working with Beth is when my husband and I were matched with a birth mom that changed her mind and did not place. Beth was extremely supportive to us as well as having compassion … Read More

FAQ: What was it like to give up your baby?

Q: “What was it like to give up your baby? Did you get to see him/her? At any stage, did you feel any guilt or selfishness?” A: “Placing my child for adoption was a decision I had thought about a lot while I was pregnant and I knew that’s what I wanted for my baby. I was unable to give him or her all that they needed. I was lucky and got to meet the adoptive parents that I…… Read More

Meet Our Potential Adoptive Families

Read adoption profiles of potential adoptive parents Meet Our Potential Adoptive Families Are you pregnant and considering adoption? Perhaps you feel ready to start reviewing profiles of potential candidates as adoptive parents for your child… If so, you can read online profiles of prospective adoptive families that have been carefully screened by Friends in Adoption and are legally approved to … Read More

Adoption Survey – Second Call for Participation

Second Call to Participate in Important Adoption Research Adam Pertman, executive director of the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute shared: “We’ve had very good response to our initial call for respondents to our study. If you have already filled out a survey and/or disseminated our request, thank you enormously.  If you have not, please participate/help if you can. The most … Read More

Secrets of Adoption

Friends in Adoption (FIA) continues to be a national voice in addressing adoption myths and helping educate on open adoption in our society. Check out this CBS New York online article for prospective adoptive parents… “Secrets of Adoption: What To Know Before You Adopt a Child Home.” FIA founding director Dawn Smith Pliner is quoted throughout. Click this link to … Read More

Re-Homing Children – FIA’s Thoughts

FIA Staff Shares Thoughts on Re-Homing Children Those who follow adoption news may have read the recent Reuters Investigative Report that exposes the topic of “re-homing” children who were adopted from other countries. The report focuses on a population of unprepared adoptive parents who have sought to place their adopted children in other U.S. homes via the Internet. The staff … Read More

Father’s Rights in Adoption: An Overview

One of the questions which you may face when considering a New York adoption placement is whether the birth father has the legal right to interfere with or upset the adoption. This summary is intended to help you understand these rights so that you may effectively respond to a placement which may be presented. To begin with, the mother’s consent is required … Read More

Adoption Survey Needs Your Input

Please consider participating in this important research about the Internet and Adoption! “Shaping thoughtful, humane and ethical laws, policies and practices requires knowledge. Even though the Internet and social media are forever changing adoption, however, we know little about their impact on the tens of millions of people affected.” As a follow up to the 2012 research report entitled, Untangling … Read More

Adoption Poem: The Gift of Life

The Gift of Life I didn’t give you the gift of life, But in my heart I know. The love I feel is deep and real, As if it had been so. For us to have each other Is like a dream come true! No, I didn’t give you The gift of life, Life gave me the gift of you. … Read More

Ryan’s Story: A Birth Father

“Patty told us everything about what FIA stood for and about how things would go. She told us about open adoption — I had no idea what it was, but when I found out, I was all for it. …. Going through a teen pregnancy was definitely one of the hardest things I have had to go through, but I believe everything happens for a reason.”” src=”https://www.friendsinadoption.orgadoption-guide/wp-content/uploads/2013/07/Ryan-Story-Birth-Father-Adoption-300×234.jpg” width=”300″ height=”234″ /> “Patty told us everything about what FIA stood for and about how things would go. She told us about open adoption — I had no idea what it was, but when I found out, I was all for it. …. Going through a teen pregnancy was definitely one of the hardest things I have had to go through, but I believe everything happens for a reason.” …… Read More

End of DOMA Doesn’t Mean Adoption Equality for Same-Sex Couples

Originally written by: Rebecca Ruiz, TODAY contributor Click HERE to read original article Marcie Fisher-Borne was overjoyed when the Supreme Court struck down a key part of the Defense of Marriage Act last month: The federal government would finally acknowledge her same-sex marriage. Yet, there was one critical thing the DOMA ruling couldn’t give either Marcie or her wife Chantelle: … Read More

Welcome Home, John!

“Beth was our main contact at Friends in Adoption (FIA) while we were active and prior to the birth of our son, she is very kind and caring. Beth is very committed to taking care of the waiting families and guiding them through the process. At our request, we checked in with Beth monthly to get an update on how many of our profiles went out in the prior month. She was very accommodating to this request and always responded quickly and with as much detail as possible. We appreciated Beth’s coordination of the Stay Acquainted meetings; we found it very helpful during our waiting period.”

Trish and Matt, adoptive parents

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New Study on Adoption, Family Diversity

Update: Some external hyperlinks links for this article have been removed and the text below is for research purposes only. Reason: The links will take our readers to a broken page. The original URLs were kept within the text, but with added spaces to eliminate the hyperlinks. INSTITUTE SEEKS ADOPTIVE PARENTS FOR NEW STUDY ON FAMILY DIVERSITY The Donaldson Adoption Institute is … Read More

US Supreme Court Strikes Down DOMA

DOMA Ruled as Unconstitutional In a 5-4 ruling today, the Supreme Court ruled the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) to be unconstitutional, on the grounds that it discriminates against gay people who are in a lawful same sex marriage. This ruling allows married gay and lesbian couples to have the same legal right as heterosexual married couples. Same sex couples … Read More

Welcome Home, Colton!

“My husband and I truly enjoyed working with Beth at Friends in Adoption (FIA), just speaking with her would make things okay. The moment that stays in my mind working with Beth is when my husband and I were matched with a birth mom that changed her mind and did not place. Beth was extremely supportive to us as well as having compassion for the birth mom. Beth clearly wants what is best for everyone involved. She is extremely passionate about her work and I will never forget the look of excitement on her face when I stopped by to introduce her to our recently adopted son.” — Steve and Bonnie, adoptive parents… Read More

Many Older Parents Adopting Children

‘Too Old To Adopt’? Not The Case For These Parents Originally published by Ann Brenoff at the Huffington Post, July 3, 2012 Click here to read the original article A recent study of Americans’ attitudes toward aging contained this little gem: Respondents thought people should stop having children by age 41, on average. While nature — at least for women … Read More

Friends in Adoption at Pride Palooza

Friends in Adoption case manager Nan Pasquarello was at the Pride Palooza this past Saturday, June 8 in Binghamton, NY. Were you there? Did you say Hi to Nan? This was a fun filled kid-friendly event that featured music, food, and community resources for the LGBTQ communities and allies.

Jamie Lee Curtis Adoption Quote

Jamie Lee Curtis: Actress, Children’s Book Writer and Adoptive Mother… has one of our favorite quotes about adoption.

We look at adoption as a very sacred exchange. It was not done lightly on either side. I would dedicate my life to this child. – Jamie Lee Curtis… Read More

Friends in Adoption Applauds the Abortion Care Network

Friends In Adoption would like to applaud the efforts of ACN, the Abortion Care Network, for its good work caring for and respecting women. The Abortion Care Network is a non-profit network of independent abortion providers, allies, and individuals who provide quality care for women. Its activities include resources for those considering abortion, efforts to de-stigmatize abortion, and ongoing training … Read More

Adoption is Not the Same as Having a Child of Your Own

Originally Written by: Dawn Davenport, of Creating a Family May 18, 2010 “Adoption Is Not The Same As Having A Child Of Your Own”: The statement that adoption is not the same as having a child of your own is both remarkably accurate and remarkably wrong.  The first part—“not the same as”—is quite true.  Adoption and giving birth are two very … Read More

CLOSURE – A Documentary About an Adoptee’s Quest to Find her Birth Mother

A new adoption documentary has been produced by film maker Bryan Tucker. It documents 26 year old Angela Tucker’s journey as a transracial adoptee to find her birth mother. It has been generating a lot of interest in the adoption world. Have a look at the promo over at their kickstarter page here: http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/1885614069/closure-adoption-documentary Review Addison Cooper, who regularly reviews adoption … Read More

Gay Adoption: The Kids are All Right

Written by: Dr. Peggy Drexler – Author, ‘Our Fathers, Ourselves. Daughters, Fathers, and the Changing American Family’ Originally published by The Huffington Post, May 23, 2012 The Kids Are All Right: Gay Parents Raising Children These days, gay parents are no novelty: We see them strolling through our neighborhoods, participating in our PTA meetings, and, perhaps most notably, appearing on our TV … Read More

Joan McNamara Adoption Quote

“It has been said that adoption is more like a marriage than a birth: two (or more) individuals, each with their own unique mix of needs, patterns, and genetic history, coming together with love, hope, and commitment for a joint future. You become a family not because you share the same genes, but because you share love for each other.”

Joan McNamara
Author and Adoptive parent… Read More

What I’ve Learned as an Adoptive Mother

A great article written by Carrie Goldman from an adoptive mother’s perspective and what she’s learned about motherhood. What I Know About Motherhood Now That I am an Adoptive Mother Written by: Carrie Goldman, Author, BULLIED: What Every Parent, Teacher, and Kid Needs to Know About Ending the Cycle of Fear Originally published by the Huffington Post, May 10, 2013 Motherhood is … Read More

Gay Marriage and Adoption: Doing What’s Right for Children

Adam Pertman, Executive Director, Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute; author, ‘Adoption Nation’ and ‘Adoption by Lesbians and Gay Men,’ wrote this very succinct and eloquent article about political views, recent court cases, and gay and lesbian couples’ legal right to marry and how it affects their families with adopted children. The main point: Gay parents benefit children who are in need of families, but these … Read More

Adoption and the LGBT Community

Originally published by The Guardian Express, 03/21/13. Click HERE to read the original article. There are many children around the United States in need of loving homes, many of whom will spend their lives in foster homes till their eighteenth birthday. However, there are also many lesbian and gay couples and singles who are able and want to raise and … Read More

Dave Thomas Adoption Quote

Dave Thomas says it best when it comes to marriage equality, adoption and family! “People ask me: ‘What about gay adoptions? Interracial? Single Parent?’ I say: ‘Hey fine, as long as it works for the child and the family is responsible.’ My big stand is this: Every child deserves a home and love. Period.“ — Dave Thomas

Why White People Adopt Black Babies

Written By RACHEL GARLINGHOUSE Originally posted at mybrownbaby.com African Americans have every reason to be suspicious of white people adopting black babies. From slavery to unethical medical experimentation to Jim Crow laws and more, history demonstrates that white people haven’t always been very kind to people of color, to say the least. As an English teacher, I read many books, … Read More

Five things to Never Say to an Adoptive Parent

Written by Suzanne Murray on CafeMom’s blog, The Stir. Published by the Huffington Post on 03/03/2013. A while ago, I was thinking of adopting a child. When I told a friend, she asked, “But don’t you want any of your own?” I was floored. Years later, a co-worker always referred to her friend’s kid as “Lisa’s adopted baby.” That would be … Read More

New ACOG Opinion on Ethics in Adoption for OB-GYN Practitioners

– by: Nan Pasquarello, Case Manager This past summer, The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) Committee on Ethics issued a Committee Opinion that clarifies best practice for physicians with regard to adoption. The articulated guidelines will benefit women and couples who are considering adoption for their babies. This article summarizes highlights from the recent opinion and shares its … Read More

19th Annual Adoption and the Family Conference – 10 Mar 2013

FIA will be in attendance! Drop by and say “Hi” to Dawn and meet the FIA staff members at their Table! Dawn will also be a speaker at one of the workshops. Conference Details: Ametz is holding its 19th annual ADOPTION and the FAMILY CONFERENCE… on Sunday, March 10, 2013, 8:00 AM – 5:00 PM *Please Note: Daylight Savings Time begins this day! at The … Read More

She’s My Girl, Just As If She Were Born To Us

Andrew, Adoptive Father: ‘Love And Devotion Do Not Require The Same DNA’ Originally Written by Andrew for Portrait of an Adoption There was never a question in my mind that we would adopt. Carrie and I had many conversations when we were first married about adopting. It just happened in a different sequence than we had envisioned. After losing Matthew, … Read More

Pregnant and Considering Adoption – What Next?

Thinking about Adoption and Wondering Where to get More Information? We understand that considering an adoption plan for your unborn baby or child raises many questions and your choices may feel overwhelming. Our staff is here to be supportive, answer your questions and guide you through your many choices regarding a potential adoption plan. Friends in Adoption (FIA) is a licensed adoption … Read More

What is a Home Study?

Preparing your Home for an Adopted Child The home study is “your life story“. You will probably have several interviews with your social worker, both in your home and possibly in his/her office. The social worker will not be coming into your home to do a “white glove” inspection. Don’t exhaust yourself cleaning and polishing! If your home is “too … Read More

Breaking Adoption Tax Credit News!

Update on the Adoption Tax Credit The federal adoption tax credit, originally set to expire on December 31, 2012, became permanent on January 2, 2013.  Now we are pleased to share even more good news that has been announced by the IRS this week. If you or someone you know is currently pursuing an adoption or considering adoption you’ll want … Read More

Road to Success – an Adoption Story

A testimonial by Jen and John, about their Experience with Friends in Adoption. “Welcome Home” After enduring many years of infertility treatment, we reached the end of our rope one September afternoon. The doctor had called to tell us that the in vitro treatment that cost us close to $7500 had failed. We could keep going, but there was less … Read More

Adoption Tax Credit Made Permanent!

Obama Includes Adoption Tax Credit with New Bill The Adoption Tax Credit was part of the Congressional deal. President Obama will sign the Bill tomorrow. Of the four pillars of the Adoption Tax Credit Working Group, we succeeded with three.  The credit has been made permanent, the credit is inclusive of both domestic and Inter-country adoptions, and it is flat for special needs. Refundability is … Read More

How Families Benefit from The Adoption Tax Credit

Click on the following link to read or listen to NPR Radio Host David Greene talk about the Adoption Tax Credit and how it helps adoptive families. http://www.npr.org/2012/12/18/167506453/how-adoption-tax-credit-benefits-families?sc=emaf This is an important topic as the Adoption Tax Credit could expire at the end of this year.

Welcome Home, Austin!

“Words can’t quite capture how grateful we are for you and all you’ve done to make Austin, Mark and I a family! From our very first call you worked from a place of respect and love, for all involved. Thank you for being such an amazing liaison between Emma, Dan, Mark and me. During a potentially nerve-racking process, you guided us with warmth and ease — and we’ll forever remember and value your role in our adoption story!”… Read More

Important breaking news about marriage equality.

https://myaccount.nytimes.com/auth/login?URI=www-nc.nytimes.com/2012/12/08/us/supreme-court-agrees-to-hear-two-cases-on-gay-marriage.html&REFUSE_COOKIE_ERROR=SHOW_ERROR; WASHINGTON — The Supreme Court announced on Friday that it would enter the national debate over same-sex marriage, agreeing to hear a pair of cases challenging state and federal laws that define marriage to include only unions of a man and a woman.

Welcome Home, Cooper!

“We first met June (a Friends in Adoption (FIA) case worker) at the hospital the morning we were to bring Cooper home. June made sure we knew what the hospital experience would be like and what to expect. When we were brought into the little room where our sweet new son was waiting, June gave us lots of time and space to take in this perfect little boy we loved immediately. June completely shared our excitement and made that nervous feeling go away”

— Dave, Sandy and Sawyer

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Chris and JoAnna are happy to Welcome Home: Evan!

“From the moment we walked through the doors at our Getting Acquainted Workshop, we felt that FIA was the right agency for us. Every moment we’ve spent with the FIA staff since has confirmed that our initial gut feeling was correct. We can’t imagine a more capable, compassionate, empathetic, dedicated, loving, hardworking, and all-around amazing group of people. We feel so lucky that as we were in the process of adopting, we were simultaneously being adopted ourselves, into the loving FIA family!”

Chris and JoAnna, adoptive parents

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Adoption Tax Credit – Help Save It

Act Now to Save The Adoption Tax Credit Before It’s Gone! The adoption child tax credit is one of the many parts of the U.S. tax code that could change dramatically on Jan. 1, 2013, if Congress and President Barack Obama do not act. Adoption advocates worry the changes would make adopting a child more difficult for middle income families.… Read More

Tenderly – An Adoption Story

Tenderly Back in the 1950’s one ethnic group seemed to follow another in the neighborhood of my youth. The ethnicity of the teachers in my grade school once dominated, but they were slowly moving out as those of mine moved in. I had long black hair that was my mother’s pride and joy. She brushed it every morning, sometimes pinning it up in braids … Read More

APC Adoption Conference in Brooklyn – Nov 18 2012

Adoption Conference – Presented by the Adoptive Parents Committee November 18, 2012 in Brooklyn NY Are you going to the APC Adoption Conference? Drop by and say “Hi” to Dawn and meet the FIA staff members at their Table. http://www.adoptiveparents.org/ This is the 32nd Annual Adoption Conference presented by the Adoptive Parents Committee, Inc.(APC). This year’s conference, a day-long event, will be … Read More

Landrieu Introduces Bill to Make Adoption More Affordable

Making Adoption Affordable Act WASHINGTON—U.S. Senator Mary L. Landrieu, D-La., today introduced the Making Adoption Affordable Act to support families that have made the wonderful decision to adopt. The Adoption Tax Credit (ATC) helps defray the sometimes high administrative fees associated with adoptions, ensuring that families that want to adopt are not discouraged by the high cost of the process. The Making … Read More

IAC Center Workshops for All Stages of Adoption

Workshop Offerings from the Infertility & Adoption Counseling Center … from the IAC Center Director: Hello, I am sharing IAC Center’s Fall offerings. Our monthly  Pre-Adoptive Parents Support Groups are in Pennington and Montclair NJ; and NYC. In addition, we have a NEW group for families who have been waiting awhile or who have experienced a fall-through. We believe that these couples or singles … Read More

Open Adoptions on the Rise

Openness in Adoption Spreading Across the U.S The Wall Street Journal ran a story about how Open Adoptions are on the rise, by Mara Lemos Stein. “As opposed to closed or confidential adoptions, open adoptions allow the adoptive and birth families some degree of contact, which can range from a single, in-person meeting to sharing photos and news periodically, to … Read More

Act Now to Save $12,650 Adoption Tax Credit!

The current Adoption Tax Credit of $12,650 could be lost at the end of this year, unless you act now! Please help save the Adoption Tax Credit by contacting your representative in Congress. Important note: If your U.S. Representative is a Republican member of Congress it is especially important to contact them about H.R. 4373. This is bipartisan – 2 … Read More

WNYC Radio Talks About Gay Dads

Abbie Goldberg, associate professor of psychology at Clark University, senior research fellow at the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute, regular blogger for Psychology Today and the author of Gay Dads: Transitions to Adoptive Fatherhood, looks at the specific issues faced by gay couples when adopting children. You can listen to a recording of the show from this link: http://tunein.com/topic/?TopicId=40492013

Rhode Island Opens Adoption Records for First Time

Adult Adoptees get Access to Birth Certificates in R.I. On July 2 2012, the state of Rhode Island began issuing original birth certificates to adult adoptees. Read the original new article and video published by The Providence Journal by going to: http://www.providencejournal.com/breaking-news/content/ Video: An excerpt from the news article: PROVIDENCE, R.I. — Dozens of adults who had been adopted as … Read More

Call Today to Save the Adoption Tax Credit

Save the Adoption Tax Credit! TAKE ACTION! Please Call Today! ASK YOUR U.S. REPRESENTATIVE 
TO CO-SPONSOR H.R. 4373 Dear Supporter of Adoption: If Congress does not act, the tax credit as we now know it will expire on December 31, 2012. If the adoption tax credit helped you or someone you know to adopt a child or if it could … Read More

Testimonial from Emma, a birth mother

“My Case Manager was kind, understanding, helpful, and answered every single ridiculous question and listened to everything that had happened without judgment. This, in my opinion, was the start of making this story as amazing as it was.” —Emma, a birth mother

Batter Up!

Does Age Matter When Adopting? How old are you? Adoptive moms and dads can often be on the older end of the spectrum. By the time we realize that adoption is our best option (and a most wonderful option it is), we are older, wiser and creakier. We may share carpooling with women who are almost young enough to be … Read More

Thank You, President Obama, for supporting full marriage equality

President Obama’s announcement today that he supports marriage equality is not only a great victory for marriage equality nationwide, but it is also directly linked to achieving fairness in adoption rights by same-sex couples. We are thankful that our President evolved and stood up for what’s right! Thank you, Mr. President! — Friends in Adoption (Click to watch video of … Read More

The Get Acquainted Workshop – Review by FIA family

“Today is a very exciting day for both of us as we just officially signed on with FIA. We cannot thank your staff enough for the GAW in Vermont. The information you shared and the knowledge of your staff was just incredible! You all truly made finalizing our decision a very easy process. There is a lot to be said about an organization that can truly convey their passion about what they do…… Read More

GAW review – by Alan and Laura

“Dear FIA Staff, Thank you, again, for organizing such a terrific GAW. We were extremely impressed with all of you and are grateful for the information you provided as well as the issues you raised for discussion and consideration. We’re really glad we attended the workshop and expect to be in…… Read More