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How to Choose an Adoption Friendly Hospital: Tips for Spotting the Right Place

Deciding to place a baby for adoption is an incredibly difficult decision. Once you’ve made the choice to provide your child with a life full of joy and happiness through adoption, your Friends in Adoption team will work with you to create an adoption plan. This adoption plan will cover the process components of adoption and what you are comfortable with. It includes traits you’d like in an adoptive family, contact plans for your open or semi-open adoption, and your … Read More

When Should I Make an Adoption Plan for My Baby?

If you are a pregnant individual and are considering adoption for your baby, you may feel overwhelmed. By deciding to give your baby the love and joy they need to have a happy life, you are exhibiting true courage and strength.  Making this decision is difficult enough. Then, you’re faced with multiple small decisions. Who will the adoptive parents be? How will your hospital stay go? Will you name the baby?  Friends in Adoption is here to help you navigate … Read More

How Do I Choose a Family to Adopt My Baby?

Choosing the right adoptive family for your newborn can be overwhelming. What should you consider? Where can you find the families? How do you know they are the right fit for your baby? Friends in Adoption is here to help guide you through the process of adoption and choosing a family you feel comfortable with. We are proud to be a part of your adoption journey. Below, Friends in Adoption walks through a step-by-step process for choosing the right adoptive … Read More

Can I Give My Baby Up for Adoption at the Hospital? A Comprehensive Guide to Your Options

“Can you give your baby up for adoption at the hospital?” Is a question we often are asked. If you decide that adoption is right for you, before going into labour or after giving birth, you may be wondering about adoption options at the hospital. First, please know you aren’t “giving up” your baby. Instead, you are choosing a life you dream of for your baby. You are giving them the best life you can. That being said, yes, it … Read More

There’s still time for your donation to be credited on your 2020 taxes!

There’s still time for your donation to be credited on your 2020 taxes! Friends in Adoption (FIA) is a non-profit agency providing comprehensive resources and support to all members of the adoption triad. When you choose to donate to FIA, you’re backing an organization that values and promotes Open Adoption and Inclusiveness. All donations to Friends in Adoption are tax-deductible.… Read More

National Adoption Month is ending but FIA’s work continues – a Times Union interview

“Adoptions a year-round effort for support agency”. The Times Union interviews Friends in Adoption for November National Adoption Awareness Month. It has been one of FIA’s major goals to inform and educate the general public in order to make a difference for those in the adoption triad.… Read More

“FIA continues to support us post-adoption”

Video: Adoptive parents share post-adoption and open adoption stories. Friends in Adoption (FIA) got together with a few alumni families via Zoom and asked them about their experience adopting through FIA. Here’s what they had to say.… Read More

What It Was Like Adopting Through FIA During a Pandemic

Video: Is it Possible to Adopt a Child During a Pandemic? YES! Friends in Adoption conducted interviews via Zoom to ask Friends in Adoption alumni families about their experiences adopting during the COVID-19 pandemic.… Read More

Press Release: November is National Adoption Awareness Month

National Adoption Month is just around the corner, taking place during the month of November. Friends in Adoption, a not-for-profit adoption agency operating nationwide with offices in Saratoga Springs and Ossining, New York, and Castleton, Vermont, is sharing adoption stories all month with the goal of raising awareness about adoption.… Read More

Everything You Need to Know About Adopting a Newborn

All parents who bring home newborn babies need and deserve lots of support. Taking care of an infant can be daunting, especially for first-time parents who aren’t sure what to expect. When you adopt a newborn through Friends in Adoption (FIA), you’ll have access to caring and knowledge professionals who will walk alongside you throughout the adoption process and who can help to answer questions once you’ve brought your baby home.… Read More

Here are some of the most common questions our caseworkers receive:

Here are answers to some of the most common questions our caseworkers receive: I’m unsure of what to do. Should I see a counselor? Will I be able to choose the adoptive parents? Can I meet the potential adoptive family that I’m considering? When it comes time to give birth, what happens? Am I eligible for some sort of financial support during my pregnancy? … Read More

“Happy Finalization Day!” to Allison, Beth Anne, and Zachary!

Friends in Adoption is thrilled to announce that Allison and Beth Anne from Chicago, IL finalized the adoption of their son Zachary on the first week of August, 2020. Despite the obstacles raised by the COVID pandemic, Allison & Beth Anne, with the help of the team at FIA, were able to get from Chicago to New York to connect with baby Zachary. We are grateful they shared photos and details of their adoption journey!… Read More

“Happy Finalization Day!” to Justin, Michael, Oliver, and Vivian!

Congratulations to Justin, Michael, and their son Oliver on welcoming home baby Vivian. Friends in Adoption was busy during July week with five happy adoption finalizations — all with social distancing observed. If you are looking for cheerful news and something to smile about during the pandemic, here’s some beautiful and happy photos of this family.… Read More

June is National Pride Month!

Friends in Adoption is Proud to celebrate Pride! The month of June commemorates the 1969 Stonewall Riots in New York City, a pivotal event in the early stages of the LGBTQ+ Rights Movement. Pride Month is revered throughout the country and is a wonderful time to honor, cheer and celebrate the many facets of LGBTQ+ experiences. At Friends in Adoption we celebrate Pride this month and every month! FIA will always proudly stand with the LGBTQ+ community, we celebrate all … Read More

Human Rights Campaign Foundation Recognizes Friends in Adoption for LGBTQ-Inclusion Efforts

FIA, a fully inclusive adoption agency, proudly announces that it is being recognized in Change-Makers in Child Welfare 2020 — a report highlighting the HRC Foundation’s All Children – All Families (ACAF) program’s partnership with organizations across the country working to improve the services they provide to the LGBTQ community.… Read More

Ask Your Adoption Agency these 5 Important Questions

Selecting an adoption agency to guide you through adopting a child is an important part of your adoption journey. Be sure to research any agency you’re considering, and ask as many questions as you need to in order to feel confident in your ultimate decision. Friends in Adoption is sharing 5 questions we recommend asking adoption agencies you’re thinking about engaging.… Read More

Daddy Squared interviews Friends in Adoption

Friends in Adoption was interviewed by Daddy Squared, a gay parenting podcast. The episode focused on providing adoption information to a couple in the initial steps of starting the adoption process. They interviewed FIA about the many aspects of the adoption process — including the financial expectations of an adoption process and the rights of pregnant individuals considering making an adoption plan, and many other interesting questions revolving around adoption by same-sex couples.… Read More

EJ, Stever, and Makenna share their adoption story on TV

Video: Adoption options for families. EJ, Stever, and Makenna are a beautiful and loving Friends in Adoption family. They were featured in this news segment today, as reported by Christina Guessferd – WCAX of WCAX News. Check it out!… Read More

Friends in Adoption offers Lifelong Connections!

Friends in Adoption offers Lifelong Connections! November is National Adoption Month, and before it comes to a close, it’s important to us to remind our alumni and prospective adoptive parents of the full range of services provided by Friends in Adoption. In particular, we want to emphasize our commitment to providing our alumni families with lifelong support, because we believe the availability of post-adoption services promotes positive outcomes and experiences for all those touched by adoption.… Read More

Spectrum News converses with Friends in Adoption!

Spectrum News converses with Friends in Adoption! Matt Hunter, reporter with Spectrum News, spent an afternoon interviewing FIA alumni Colby and Tifanie and Ron and Katharine, about their experiences with being new parents. Matt also spoke with Patty Smith, FIA’s Case Manager and Community Outreach Provider working out of Glenville, Schenectady County, NY.… Read More

November is National Adoption Awareness Month!

November is National Adoption Month! We hope you celebrate this unique month by spreading positive messages about adoption! This month and every month, Friends in Adoption is always committed to the compassionate treatment of everyone involved in the adoption process; the adoptive families and pregnant women/couples making an adoption plan, while keeping the central focus on the needs of each child.… Read More

Understanding the Language of Adoption

Understanding the Language of Adoption Friends in Adoption (FIA) is committed to empowering individuals and families during all stages of the adoption process and throughout their lives. FIA promotes a compassionate approach to inclusive and open adoptions, and demystifying the language of adoption furthers our mission. The words we choose shape how we, and those around us, think about situations and concepts we encounter in our everyday lives. Being thoughtful about the language we use when speaking about adoption helps … Read More

This Is Me… Part Three ~ By: Kayleigh Putnam

If you’re just tuning in to my Friends In Adoption (FIA) blog, my first blog talks about my adoption and how I felt growing up as an adopted child. My second blog is about how I met my biological sister (who I just recently found out existed!) when she was visiting our aunt in Rhode Island. It was an incredible experience and one of the best days of my life. Today, I will tell you about how I met my mother. … Read More

Friends in Adoption, proud to be at New York City Pride!

This year in New York City, pride month wrapped up thirty days of festivities with a day-long parade and festivals honoring World Pride . The celebration commemorated the 50th anniversary of Stonewall, a series of riots during the sixties that launched the ongoing movement for LGBTQ+ rights. Friends in Adoption had the privilege of tabling at Pride.… Read More

Seems like just yesterday ~ by: Lisa, Tina, Ben, & Zach

We have been thinking about FIA a lot over the past few months. As Ben approaches his 18th birthday and high school graduation, we are reminded everyday how grateful we are for the major role FIA played in creating our family. While Ben has grown into an incredible young man, it still sometimes seems like just yesterday, we were attending our first FIA workshop and dreaming of starting a family! You will forever hold a place in our hearts! With Love,
Lisa, Tina, Ben & Zach… Read More

Gratitude

Gratitude – the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness. As the Founding Director of Friends in Adoption for inching up to 40 years, I am eternally grateful for the gifts of an incredible staff, a dedicated Board of Directors, all of the attorneys, social workers and counselors who support the work we do and my ever growing Friends in Adoption family. In gratitude to all, Dawn… Read More

Friends in Adoption attends: “This is Us: Adoption in the REAL World”

Friends in Adoption attends: “This is Us: Adoption in the REAL World” -by Deirdre Graham, Community Outreach Manager A couple weeks ago I was lucky enough to attend: “This is Us; Adoption in the REAL World”, a panel co-moderated by April Dinwoodie, Chief Executive of the Donaldson Adoption Institute (DAI), and Richard Heyl de Ortiz, Executive Director of the Adoptive and Foster Family Coalition of New York (AFFCNY). The event was held at The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Community Center … Read More

A Summer Letter From Dawn

FIA’S 35TH ANNUAL PICNIC — A JOYFUL DAY OF CELEBRATION We now have 3 generations of FIA families in attendance at the picnic. Children that were placed through FIA bring their partners and children along with their birth and adoptive families; young adults placed attend on their own just to stay connected; reunions happen at the picnic- truly a day to celebrate our families! OF INTEREST. A responsibility of a parent is to do their best to have their child/ren … Read More

Our future needs us

To All of our LGBTQ+ Families and to the LGBTQ families throughout the country, My heart breaks for our children. As parents we must remain strong and united. We must show our children through action that we will fight for their rights. We will show them by example how to live life in kindness and respect. (read more)… Read More

The Adoption Process from the Expectant Mother’s Perspective

What is it really like to decide on adoption, look through parent profiles to choose a family, and place your child in their arms—and how can the adoption process better serve these women? Article – by Barbara Herel This piece has valuable insights from both Dawn Smith-Pliner and the birthmothers. I often think back to my domestic adoption process as a hopeful adoptive mom. While I was diligently crossing off the many tangible to-dos—fingerprints, financials, physicals—my daughter’s birth mother was … Read More

Honoring all Fathers

Friends in Adoption honors all fathers – birth, adoptive, and future dads – on this special day. Thank you to all the devoted, caring, loving, supportive, nurturing fathers, whether birth or adoptive. You are special! Friends in Adoption celebrates you!… Read More

Love wins!

Friends in Adoption is thrilled with today’s SCOTUS decision on Marriage equality. We congratulate all of our gay, lesbian, transgender and ALL TYPES of families in this very important, historic victory today! Love wins, all families win, all children win!… Read More

When is adoption “done right?”

When is adoption “done right?” Sometimes it is easier to think about the ways something can be “done wrong” in order to be sure we get it right. Any time adoption is not informed by respect and truth, or when it is not voluntary for a placing parent, it is done wrong. Any time adoption moves forward without regard for the (…)… Read More

FAQ: Can I Adopt a Child If I Have a Health Condition?

Q: Can I Adopt a Child If I Have a Health Condition? A: Friends in Adoption is occasionally asked by a prospective adoptive parent if they would be disqualified from adopting a child because of a health condition, either past or present. Like a prospective biological parent, having a health condition does not automatically disqualify a prospective adoptive parent from being…… Read More

Are you Hoping to become a Parent Through Adoption?

The American Academy of Adoption Attorneys is offering a free and open to the public Family Building Expo. Stop by the Friends in Adoption table and say hello to Dawn and Nan! “Creating Your Child’s Story” Saturday, September 20, 2014, 9:30 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. Four Seasons Hotel, One Logan Square, Philadelphia Workshops by the leading national legal experts about adoption, foster care and family creation. Dawn Smith Pliner, Founding Director of Friends in Adoption will be speaking on Open … Read More

Adoption Information in Any Language

Each year, FIA is asked by health care professionals and other advocates if we can assist a woman or couple with an adoption plan if they do not speak English. The answer is and has been, YES!  Women’s issues are women’s issues, regardless of spoken language, and compassionate adoption is not limited only to those who speak English. Women and couples for whom English is not their first language may be considering adoption as an option for an unplanned pregnancy. Friends in Adoption is happy to work with anyone interested in learning more about adoption regardless of communication style or language.… Read More

Photo Album: Friends in Adoption 32nd Annual Picnic – 2014

The Friends in Adoption 32nd Annual Picnic was perfect! Perfect weather, perfect fun, perfect energy and perfect spirit of family. This photo album is just a small sample of all the fun. We hope to see everyone again, soon! If you took your own photos at the picnic, please like, share, and post your photos under the hashtag #fiapicnic2014 so we can find them! To enlarge any of the images in this slideshow, just click or tap on the thumbnails below:

2014 AAAA Conference Photos

Dawn and Nan recently attended the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys (AAAA) Conference in New Orleans and networked with adoption attorneys and professionals all over the country. FIA appreciates working with many of our AAAA friends!… Read More

Robert Klose Adoption Quote

I realized at the start that whether a child is biological or adopted, one does not know all the ingredients in the package. That is what growth is all about. A child is the slowest flower in the world, opening petal by petal, revealing the developing personality within. -Robert Klose, Adoptive parent

One Final Call to Action – Save the Adoption Tax Credit!

Thank you to all who have participated in the Grassroots Advocacy Campaign to Save the Adoption Tax Credit! One final call to action! In this last week of our grassroots campaign, please check congress.gov and see which Members of Congress have become cosponsors of S.1056 and H.R.2144. This is a chance to thank those representatives who are supporting the bill! Please tell them how important this credit is to your family and how much you appreciate their fighting to protect … Read More

Saving the Adoption Tax Credit!

Let’s Keep It Going! When something is worth pursuing, even when it is a challenge, it is important that we don’t give up! Every day, hundreds of people reach out to their representatives in Congress about a whole host of issues. Sometimes it takes more than one try to get their attention, so please continue to bring to light the important issue of protecting a REFUNDABLE and permanent adoption tax credit! If you have already contacted your representative and have not … Read More

The Latest on Advocating for the Adoption Tax Credit (ATC)

Did you know?  Members of Congress working on tax reform have said that for any element of the current tax code to remain, it should do one or all of the following:  1) grow the economy, 2) make the tax code fairer, and, 3) effectively promote an important policy objective. And guess what? A refundable adoption tax credit does all three things. How does the ATC Save Money? A 2006 study cited by the U.S. Department of Health and Human … Read More

Language in Adoption: What’s in a name?

Language in Adoption: What’s in a name? by Dawn Smith Pliner, Founding Director, Friends in Adoption Birthmom? First mom? Natural mom? Does that make me an Adoptive mom? A Second mom? Or an Unnatural mom? Language is powerful — it can be helpful and it can be hurtful. Many years ago I called a pregnant woman who was considering adoption a birthmom. She was livid. I was quickly put into my place as she tersely informed me that until she arrived upon … Read More

A New Friend

Nan and I recently had the honor of meeting Meg, the Founder and Executive Director of Plants for Patients. I knew our organizations were soul mates when I read from their website this paragraph: “Plants for Patients is an idea; it’s a framework for doing good work in our communities. The program identifies as neither pro-choice nor anti-abortion, but exists in the space between, a space we call pro-compassion. This framework allows us to warmly welcome people of differing views, beliefs and opinions to support women in need.” … Read More

Your Adoption Tax Credit Advocacy is WORKING!!

Please keep it up and if you haven’t helped out yet, please do! The time to make a few calls is now. It won’t take much time but those calls have a great effect. Members of Congress act on issues when they believe those issues matter to their constituents. Now that the adoption tax credit is under threat, your three members of Congress need to understand how important this tax credit is to adoptive families. The more you reach out … Read More

From Hollywood to Downton Abbey… Adoption on the Screen

For as long as it took adoption to change over the past hundred years, it has taken popular media even longer to catch on to accurate depictions of adoption in film and television. Until the television show Modern Family came out with Cam and Mitchell adopting internationally and then going through the process to adopt domestically, there was virtually no real currency regarding the issues around adoption on television.… Read More

Please Help FIA advocate for the Adoption Tax Credit!

The Issue: Last week, the Chairman of the Ways and Means Committee released his tax reform proposal and to our dismay, the proposal eliminates the adoption tax credit. Our grassroots advocacy efforts are needed now more than ever before. Please help us reach every single member of Congress by sharing your real stories!  Outreach to your legislators is the only way to protect the adoption tax credit. Legislators only need to hear from 20 constituents about an issue before it … Read More

Please HELP Make Adoption Tax Credit Permanent!

Friends in Adoption (FIA) is a member organization of The Adoption Tax Credit Working Group. We are helping to spread the word about the need for continued advocacy for a PERMANENT, REFUNDABLE adoption tax credit through a Grassroots Advocacy Campaign. Please help! The Goal? The Adoption Tax Credit Working Group (ATCWG) would like to obtain 30 Co-Sponsors on the Adoption Tax Credit (ATC) Refundability Bills: S. 1056 and H.R. 2144 in 100 days. Why the urgency? Tax discussions are underway … Read More

FIA Needs Your Photos for the FIA: Keep It Real Project

FIA Introduces…

The Keep it Real Project: Real Adoptions. Real People. Real Images.

Calling All FIA Family Members!

FIA loves featuring photos of REAL FIA ALUMNI. Portraying actual FIA family members (birth and adoptive) in our print and electronic publications, as opposed to using stock photos, are the only way to keep it real! If you and/or your family members are interested in being a part of this exciting project, please click on the link below and from there you will be able to send us your best 1-3 family photos…… Read More

Poem – Legacy of an Adopted Child

Adopted Children Are Product Of Two Different Kinds Of Love By Abigail Van Buren | Dear Abby – Wed, Mar 6, 2013 DEAR ABBY: While cleaning out my attic yesterday, I found a letter that my daughter wrote to you a few years ago when she was 13. She was responding to a poem that had appeared in your column, “Legacy of an Adopted Child.” She was going through a very trying time and was being bullied because she was adopted and … Read More

Consider a Donation to Friends in Adoption

As you plan for your year-end contributions, please consider donating to Friends in Adoption (FIA) to help us continue our lifelong work supporting the family of adoption, and for continuing to serve as a community resource for adoption advocacy and education. Your generous financial support, along with your voices, greatly help advance this important work and are appreciated! FIA is a not-for-profit agency. We rely in part on the generous gifts of our alumni, supporters, and friends. All contributions are tax-deductible. FIA is doing more now than ever before to create and care for families created through Compassionate Adoption. Thank you, in advance, for your generosity!… Read More

Press Release: “FIA defends reproductive rights and highlights best practice to celebrate National Adoption Awareness Month”

Friends in Adoption, licensed non-profit agency, defends reproductive rights and highlights best practice to celebrate November — National Adoption Awareness Month. FIA believes it is important for women and couples facing a pregnancy decision to learn about all their legal options – knowing that they may be considering parenting, adoption, or abortion – and its ethical approach is to listen and provide information and support to those individuals, without telling them which decision they should make.… Read More

FAQ: I don’t know anything about open adoption. Can you tell me about it?

Q: I don’t know anything about open adoption. Can you tell me about it? A: Open adoption enables communication between expectant/birth parents and adoptive birth parents before and/or after placement of a child with the adoptive family. Open adoption may include sharing information, letters, emails, calls, texts, and or face-to face visits…… Read More

What’s the difference between open adoption and closed adoption?

Q: What’s the difference between Open Adoption and Closed Adoption? A: Open Adoption vs Closed Adoption means, among many other factors, that there are different levels of post-adoption contact. In open adoption, there is an ongoing direct relationship between the child and the birth family…… Read More

FAQ: What is open adoption and are all adoptions with FIA open?

Q: What is open adoption and are all adoptions with FIA open? A: Open adoption generally means there is an ongoing direct relationship between the child and the birth family. FIA adheres to “Hospitious Adoption”. Jim Gritter, author of Hospitious Adoption takes the approach that practicing goodwill, respect, and courage within the realm of adoption makes the process unfold more smoothly and enriches children’s lives… Read More

FAQ: What is the average cost of an adoption through FIA?

Q: What is the average cost of an adoption through FIA? A: The cost of an adoption averages between $25,000 and $45,000. Costs generally incurred by the adopting couple/single are: agency fee, home study fees, advertising and outreach fees, counseling fees, legal fees, telephone and travel expenses, and in some cases medical expenses… Read More

FIA Family Explains how DOMA affects their Lives

Winchester, Mass. couple closely watching DOMA ruling News Story originally broadcast by their Local News Station NECN. Click Here to read original story and to watch the video. Joe and Graham are Adoptive Parents (with their daughter Emily) working with Friends in Adoption for their second adoption. …. original story … (NECN) – The Supreme Court ruling on DOMA will impact same sex couples across the nation. We talked to one such family from Winchester, Mass (video below, may not … Read More

FAQ: I am afraid of being judged . . . if I call your agency, what can I expect?

Q: I am afraid of being judged . . . if I call your agency, what can I expect? A: At FIA, we pledge to not judge you! No matter your circumstance, we are here to listen and not judge. We know it’s hard to talk about personal issues with a stranger, but sometimes it is easier than to talk with people who are trying to influence you to do a certain thing. …… Read More

FAQ: I think I would like a closed adoption. Can FIA help me?

Q: I think I would like a closed adoption. Can FIA help me? A: Yes! Friends in Adoption (FIA) strongly respects the birth parents’ wishes regarding whether or not there will be post-adoption contact with the adoptive family. FIA takes a person’s right to privacy very seriously and takes measures to assure all adoptions are done in a respectful and compassionate manner… Read More

Testimonial from Laurie, Rob & Angelina

Dear FIA Friends, We are enjoying to the fullest having Angelina in our life! We are so grateful to you all for your help and support in bringing Angelina to us. She is such a happy, playful, exuberant baby, now 16 months old, delighting in the snow and her new found mobility – walking, running, dancing, climbing to her heart’s content. We look forward to the day when we will welcome a baby sister or brother for Angelina. Much love … Read More

FAQ: What was it like to give up your baby?

Q: “What was it like to give up your baby? Did you get to see him/her? At any stage, did you feel any guilt or selfishness?” A: “Placing my child for adoption was a decision I had thought about a lot while I was pregnant and I knew that’s what I wanted for my baby. I was unable to give him or her all that they needed. I was lucky and got to meet the adoptive parents that I…… Read More

Meet Our Potential Adoptive Families

Read adoption profiles of potential adoptive parents Meet Our Potential Adoptive Families Are you pregnant and considering adoption? Perhaps you feel ready to start reviewing profiles of potential candidates as adoptive parents for your child… If so, you can read online profiles of prospective adoptive families that have been carefully screened by Friends in Adoption and are legally approved to adopt a child. From our main list of pre-adoptive families, you will be able to review detailed pages about each … Read More

Secrets of Adoption

Friends in Adoption (FIA) continues to be a national voice in addressing adoption myths and helping educate on open adoption in our society. Check out this CBS New York online article for prospective adoptive parents… “Secrets of Adoption: What To Know Before You Adopt a Child Home.” FIA founding director Dawn Smith Pliner is quoted throughout. Click this link to read the article: http://newyork.cbslocal.com/2013/07/24/secrets-of-adoption-what-to-know-before-you-adopt-a-child-home/ Here is an excerpt: While it may be true that love conquers all, the complexities surrounding … Read More

Re-Homing Children – FIA’s Thoughts

FIA Staff Shares Thoughts on Re-Homing Children Those who follow adoption news may have read the recent Reuters Investigative Report that exposes the topic of “re-homing” children who were adopted from other countries. The report focuses on a population of unprepared adoptive parents who have sought to place their adopted children in other U.S. homes via the Internet. The staff at FIA, like many, read the horrific report with heartbreak, and we echo the sentiments of a thought-provoking blog post … Read More

Father’s Rights in Adoption: An Overview

One of the questions which you may face when considering a New York adoption placement is whether the birth father has the legal right to interfere with or upset the adoption. This summary is intended to help you understand these rights so that you may effectively respond to a placement which may be presented. To begin with, the mother’s consent is required in virtually all infant adoptions in New York. Similarly, if the mother is married, her husband’s consent is ordinarily required if … Read More

Adoption Poem: The Gift of Life

The Gift of Life I didn’t give you the gift of life, But in my heart I know. The love I feel is deep and real, As if it had been so. For us to have each other Is like a dream come true! No, I didn’t give you The gift of life, Life gave me the gift of you. — Unknown

Ryan’s Story: A Birth Father

“Patty told us everything about what FIA stood for and about how things would go. She told us about open adoption — I had no idea what it was, but when I found out, I was all for it. …. Going through a teen pregnancy was definitely one of the hardest things I have had to go through, but I believe everything happens for a reason.”” src=”https://www.friendsinadoption.orgadoption-guide/wp-content/uploads/2013/07/Ryan-Story-Birth-Father-Adoption-300×234.jpg” width=”300″ height=”234″ /> “Patty told us everything about what FIA stood for and about how things would go. She told us about open adoption — I had no idea what it was, but when I found out, I was all for it. …. Going through a teen pregnancy was definitely one of the hardest things I have had to go through, but I believe everything happens for a reason.” …… Read More

End of DOMA Doesn’t Mean Adoption Equality for Same-Sex Couples

Originally written by: Rebecca Ruiz, TODAY contributor Click HERE to read original article Marcie Fisher-Borne was overjoyed when the Supreme Court struck down a key part of the Defense of Marriage Act last month: The federal government would finally acknowledge her same-sex marriage. Yet, there was one critical thing the DOMA ruling couldn’t give either Marcie or her wife Chantelle: full legal parental rights to their two biological children, 5-year-old Miley and 20-month-old Eli. The Fisher-Bornes, both 38, have been … Read More

Welcome Home, John!

“Beth was our main contact at Friends in Adoption (FIA) while we were active and prior to the birth of our son, she is very kind and caring. Beth is very committed to taking care of the waiting families and guiding them through the process. At our request, we checked in with Beth monthly to get an update on how many of our profiles went out in the prior month. She was very accommodating to this request and always responded quickly and with as much detail as possible. We appreciated Beth’s coordination of the Stay Acquainted meetings; we found it very helpful during our waiting period.”

Trish and Matt, adoptive parents

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New Study on Adoption, Family Diversity

Update: Some external hyperlinks links for this article have been removed and the text below is for research purposes only. Reason: The links will take our readers to a broken page. The original URLs were kept within the text, but with added spaces to eliminate the hyperlinks. INSTITUTE SEEKS ADOPTIVE PARENTS FOR NEW STUDY ON FAMILY DIVERSITY The Donaldson Adoption Institute is seeking parents in every type of adoption to explore different types of adoptive families (e.g., heterosexual versus sexual minority families; … Read More

US Supreme Court Strikes Down DOMA

DOMA Ruled as Unconstitutional In a 5-4 ruling today, the Supreme Court ruled the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) to be unconstitutional, on the grounds that it discriminates against gay people who are in a lawful same sex marriage. This ruling allows married gay and lesbian couples to have the same legal right as heterosexual married couples. Same sex couples who are legally married are now entitled to file joint federal tax returns, social security survivors benefits, among other, giving them … Read More

Lisa’s Story: A Birth Mother

My name is Lisa and I am honored to say that I am a Friends in Adoption Birth Mother. At the age of 39 I found myself in a much unplanned situation. I was on birth control and involved in a very nice relationship, becoming pregnant was the least of my worries after all there is only a .2 percent failure rate of birth control. Well much to my surprise I found myself in that .2 percent and searching for answers. … Read More

Letter from FIA Alumni

We recently received this letter from a past FIA alumni family and wanted to share (with permission). Hi Dawn, Our son Zachary graduates from high school this week. His birth mom is coming out for it and we are all excited. Thanks for helping us in 1994. We love our son and are so proud of his accomplishments. I’ve attached a copy of the ad we placed in the yearbook. We love FIA! Leslie and Jim If you are an … Read More

Many Older Parents Adopting Children

‘Too Old To Adopt’? Not The Case For These Parents Originally published by Ann Brenoff at the Huffington Post, July 3, 2012 Click here to read the original article A recent study of Americans’ attitudes toward aging contained this little gem: Respondents thought people should stop having children by age 41, on average. While nature — at least for women — may concur with the results, that hasn’t stopped older couples from adopting when they are well into their 50s … Read More

Friends in Adoption at Pride Palooza

Friends in Adoption case manager Nan Pasquarello was at the Pride Palooza this past Saturday, June 8 in Binghamton, NY. Were you there? Did you say Hi to Nan? This was a fun filled kid-friendly event that featured music, food, and community resources for the LGBTQ communities and allies.

Jamie Lee Curtis Adoption Quote

Jamie Lee Curtis: Actress, Children’s Book Writer and Adoptive Mother… has one of our favorite quotes about adoption.

We look at adoption as a very sacred exchange. It was not done lightly on either side. I would dedicate my life to this child. – Jamie Lee Curtis… Read More

Friends in Adoption Applauds the Abortion Care Network

Friends In Adoption would like to applaud the efforts of ACN, the Abortion Care Network, for its good work caring for and respecting women. The Abortion Care Network is a non-profit network of independent abortion providers, allies, and individuals who provide quality care for women. Its activities include resources for those considering abortion, efforts to de-stigmatize abortion, and ongoing training for quality abortion care. A terrific resource for those who are making a pregnancy decision is the Pregnancy Options Workbook, … Read More

Adoption is Not the Same as Having a Child of Your Own

Originally Written by: Dawn Davenport, of Creating a Family May 18, 2010 “Adoption Is Not The Same As Having A Child Of Your Own”: The statement that adoption is not the same as having a child of your own is both remarkably accurate and remarkably wrong.  The first part—“not the same as”—is quite true.  Adoption and giving birth are two very different ways of creating your family. Just as New York City and Paris are two different vacation destinations, or chocolate and … Read More

CLOSURE – A Documentary About an Adoptee’s Quest to Find her Birth Mother

A new adoption documentary has been produced by film maker Bryan Tucker. It documents 26 year old Angela Tucker’s journey as a transracial adoptee to find her birth mother. It has been generating a lot of interest in the adoption world. Have a look at the promo over at their kickstarter page here: http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/1885614069/closure-adoption-documentary Review Addison Cooper, who regularly reviews adoption themed movies, posts his own thoughts on the film here: http://www.adoptionlcsw.com/2013/05/closure-trans-racial-adoptees-quest-for.html and has this to say: It’s difficult to imagine … Read More

Gay Adoption: The Kids are All Right

Written by: Dr. Peggy Drexler – Author, ‘Our Fathers, Ourselves. Daughters, Fathers, and the Changing American Family’ Originally published by The Huffington Post, May 23, 2012 The Kids Are All Right: Gay Parents Raising Children These days, gay parents are no novelty: We see them strolling through our neighborhoods, participating in our PTA meetings, and, perhaps most notably, appearing on our TV screens: Mitchell and Cam, fathers to Lily, on the ratings smash Modern Family; Glee’s Sue Sylvester, expectant mom to a baby conceived with … Read More

Joan McNamara Adoption Quote

“It has been said that adoption is more like a marriage than a birth: two (or more) individuals, each with their own unique mix of needs, patterns, and genetic history, coming together with love, hope, and commitment for a joint future. You become a family not because you share the same genes, but because you share love for each other.”

Joan McNamara
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What I’ve Learned as an Adoptive Mother

A great article written by Carrie Goldman from an adoptive mother’s perspective and what she’s learned about motherhood. What I Know About Motherhood Now That I am an Adoptive Mother Written by: Carrie Goldman, Author, BULLIED: What Every Parent, Teacher, and Kid Needs to Know About Ending the Cycle of Fear Originally published by the Huffington Post, May 10, 2013 Motherhood is an interesting job. I find that I grow up alongside each child. Now, I am the mother of a newborn. … Read More

Congratulations Olivia on Your Adoption Finalization Day

Congratulations to Olivia!! Elizabeth, Liz, and Olivia are just one of the many happy adoptive families who have successfully adopted with Friends in Adoption in the recent months. Click here to see more FIA Alumni Families who have adopted. For over 30 years, Friends in Adoption has helped create over 1,000 forever families through adoption.

Dear Moms of Adopted Children – by Kathy Lynn Harris

Kathy Lynn Harris, author of “A Good Kind of Knowing” and “Blue Straggler,” has written this wonderful article about adoption. It is very well written and worth the time to read it. Dear Moms of Adopted Children by Kathy Lynn Harris Click HERE for the original article First, a quick note: I wrote this piece after reading an essay written by Lea Grover in theHuffiington Post, titled “Dear Less-Than-Perfect Mom.” The post by Lea was wonderful, and it made me think about us moms … Read More

Gay Marriage and Adoption: Doing What’s Right for Children

Adam Pertman, Executive Director, Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute; author, ‘Adoption Nation’ and ‘Adoption by Lesbians and Gay Men,’ wrote this very succinct and eloquent article about political views, recent court cases, and gay and lesbian couples’ legal right to marry and how it affects their families with adopted children. The main point: Gay parents benefit children who are in need of families, but these families do not receive all the legal benefits associated with marriage. Shouldn’t our nation’s laws, policies and practices serve “the … Read More

Adoption and the LGBT Community

Originally published by The Guardian Express, 03/21/13. Click HERE to read the original article. There are many children around the United States in need of loving homes, many of whom will spend their lives in foster homes till their eighteenth birthday. However, there are also many lesbian and gay couples and singles who are able and want to raise and provide a home for children of their own or to adopt. Some are able to and some are barred from … Read More

What to Expect with Friends in Adoption

If you choose to explore adoption with FIA, you can expect to: Learn about the choices you have in creating an adoption plan that fits you and your needs, including how much contact you want, both before and after your child’s birth. Have your privacy and confidentiality maintained. Have FIA’s kind and experienced staff available to support you 24 hours a day, without putting any pressure on you. Be offered free, face-to-face, local counseling services for you and your family, … Read More

A Birth Mother with the Right Regrets

Originally published in the New York Times, 02/24/13. Written by CLAUDIA CORRIGAN D’ARCY Click HERE to read the original article My mother looked shocked and said, “I can’t raise this baby for you,” but I was ready with my reply. “You won’t have to,” I said. “I’ll have this baby and give it up for adoption.” Like some magic answer I plucked from the air, adoption was the solution to all the problems of being unmarried, 19 and six months pregnant. Like … Read More

Dave Thomas Adoption Quote

Dave Thomas says it best when it comes to marriage equality, adoption and family! “People ask me: ‘What about gay adoptions? Interracial? Single Parent?’ I say: ‘Hey fine, as long as it works for the child and the family is responsible.’ My big stand is this: Every child deserves a home and love. Period.“ — Dave Thomas

Why White People Adopt Black Babies

Written By RACHEL GARLINGHOUSE Originally posted at mybrownbaby.com African Americans have every reason to be suspicious of white people adopting black babies. From slavery to unethical medical experimentation to Jim Crow laws and more, history demonstrates that white people haven’t always been very kind to people of color, to say the least. As an English teacher, I read many books, and I can recall the numerous titles that talked about whites using slave children as entertainment at dinner parties while … Read More

Five things to Never Say to an Adoptive Parent

Written by Suzanne Murray on CafeMom’s blog, The Stir. Published by the Huffington Post on 03/03/2013. A while ago, I was thinking of adopting a child. When I told a friend, she asked, “But don’t you want any of your own?” I was floored. Years later, a co-worker always referred to her friend’s kid as “Lisa’s adopted baby.” That would be like saying, “Lisa’s egg donor baby” or “Lisa’s IVF baby” or “Lisa’s got-drunk-and-forgot-to-use-a-condom baby.” Grrrr. I just don’t get it. … Read More

New ACOG Opinion on Ethics in Adoption for OB-GYN Practitioners

– by: Nan Pasquarello, Case Manager This past summer, The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) Committee on Ethics issued a Committee Opinion that clarifies best practice for physicians with regard to adoption. The articulated guidelines will benefit women and couples who are considering adoption for their babies. This article summarizes highlights from the recent opinion and shares its recommendations. It makes sense that OB-GYN physicians, who are experts on infertility, pregnancy, and childbirth will be asked for advice … Read More

19th Annual Adoption and the Family Conference – 10 Mar 2013

FIA will be in attendance! Drop by and say “Hi” to Dawn and meet the FIA staff members at their Table! Dawn will also be a speaker at one of the workshops. Conference Details: Ametz is holding its 19th annual ADOPTION and the FAMILY CONFERENCE… on Sunday, March 10, 2013, 8:00 AM – 5:00 PM *Please Note: Daylight Savings Time begins this day! at The Conference Center, 130 E. 59th Street, New York City This year’s conference begins with the Keynote lecture, “SEARCH AND REUNION,” … Read More

The Adoption Process: Trying To Write The Perfect Letter To A Birth Mom

How Can We Convince Her We Are THE ONES? Written by Sheila Quirke for Portrait of an Adoption Published in The Huffington Post Last month we had our home visit. A social worker that we have told our deepest (pretty shallow), darkest (more like dusk) family secrets to dropped by for a visit to see our home and meet our son. Her mission? To verify that we are suitable to become adoptive parents. Our mission? To welcome her. Adoption, we … Read More

She’s My Girl, Just As If She Were Born To Us

Andrew, Adoptive Father: ‘Love And Devotion Do Not Require The Same DNA’ Originally Written by Andrew for Portrait of an Adoption There was never a question in my mind that we would adopt. Carrie and I had many conversations when we were first married about adopting. It just happened in a different sequence than we had envisioned. After losing Matthew, adoption seemed like a way to rebuild our dreams of being parents. I had very little idea of how adoption … Read More

Top 5 Benefits of Open Adoption

Open Adoption Versus Closed Adoption By Dustin Freund For many couples entering into the adoption process for the first time, the idea of an open adoption can seem a little bit troubling. Common questions and fears many adoptive families have about open adoption are, “Will the biological parents attempt to get their child back? Will the adoptee be confused with two separate sets of parents? Will we still feel like the adoptee’s parents if his birth parents are present?” These questions … Read More

A History Lesson in Open and Closed Adoption

Have adoptions in America typically been open or closed? You may be surprised at the answer. The following article discusses the openness of early adoptions in America, and when changes were made. Adoption has not always been under the scope of public law and accordingly has been somewhat informal, but it has historically been quite open. If a child was being raised by a person other than their biological parent, folks usually knew. The child knew. The public knew. Sometimes … Read More

Dangers of Using Facebook to Search for Birth Families

Impact of Social Media on Post Adoption What do you do if your adopted child wants to make contact with his or her birth families? Social Media is making it easier to do this on your own, but it is not necessarily the best approach. Dawn Smith-Pliner of Friends in Adoption (FIA) had this to say about the Post Adoption Services offered by FIA: FIA’s Post Adoption Services: More and more of our FIA kids are expressing interest in connecting … Read More

Pregnant and Considering Adoption – What Next?

Thinking about Adoption and Wondering Where to get More Information? We understand that considering an adoption plan for your unborn baby or child raises many questions and your choices may feel overwhelming. Our staff is here to be supportive, answer your questions and guide you through your many choices regarding a potential adoption plan. Friends in Adoption (FIA) is a licensed adoption agency founded by an adoptive mother who saw that the many needs of birth parents and adoptive families were not … Read More

From One Adoptive Mom to Another

A letter to Other Adoptive Parents One adoptive mother’s thoughts on making sure the birthmother is not forgotten in an open adoption. Click HERE  to read the entire article. An excerpt: There is an issue that has been weighing on my mind lately. I have heard from a number of birthmothers who chose open adoption who feel forgotten by and disconnected from the families that adopted their baby. … I get it-  we are parenting- loving, worrying, teaching, helping, hoping. It … Read More

Breaking Adoption Tax Credit News!

Update on the Adoption Tax Credit The federal adoption tax credit, originally set to expire on December 31, 2012, became permanent on January 2, 2013.  Now we are pleased to share even more good news that has been announced by the IRS this week. If you or someone you know is currently pursuing an adoption or considering adoption you’ll want to take note of the following highlights of the adoption tax credit for 2013: The maximum dollar limit for the … Read More

Road to Success – an Adoption Story

A testimonial by Jen and John, about their Experience with Friends in Adoption. “Welcome Home” After enduring many years of infertility treatment, we reached the end of our rope one September afternoon. The doctor had called to tell us that the in vitro treatment that cost us close to $7500 had failed. We could keep going, but there was less than 10 percent chance of success. I had to do something so I wouldn’t feel so powerless. I looked in … Read More

Adoption Tax Credit Made Permanent!

Obama Includes Adoption Tax Credit with New Bill The Adoption Tax Credit was part of the Congressional deal. President Obama will sign the Bill tomorrow. Of the four pillars of the Adoption Tax Credit Working Group, we succeeded with three.  The credit has been made permanent, the credit is inclusive of both domestic and Inter-country adoptions, and it is flat for special needs. Refundability is not included. For detailed information, read the website at http://adoptiontaxcredit.org/

How Families Benefit from The Adoption Tax Credit

Click on the following link to read or listen to NPR Radio Host David Greene talk about the Adoption Tax Credit and how it helps adoptive families. http://www.npr.org/2012/12/18/167506453/how-adoption-tax-credit-benefits-families?sc=emaf This is an important topic as the Adoption Tax Credit could expire at the end of this year.

Welcome Home, Austin!

“Words can’t quite capture how grateful we are for you and all you’ve done to make Austin, Mark and I a family! From our very first call you worked from a place of respect and love, for all involved. Thank you for being such an amazing liaison between Emma, Dan, Mark and me. During a potentially nerve-racking process, you guided us with warmth and ease — and we’ll forever remember and value your role in our adoption story!”… Read More

Important breaking news about marriage equality.

https://myaccount.nytimes.com/auth/login?URI=www-nc.nytimes.com/2012/12/08/us/supreme-court-agrees-to-hear-two-cases-on-gay-marriage.html&REFUSE_COOKIE_ERROR=SHOW_ERROR; WASHINGTON — The Supreme Court announced on Friday that it would enter the national debate over same-sex marriage, agreeing to hear a pair of cases challenging state and federal laws that define marriage to include only unions of a man and a woman.

Welcome Home, Cooper!

“We first met June (a Friends in Adoption (FIA) case worker) at the hospital the morning we were to bring Cooper home. June made sure we knew what the hospital experience would be like and what to expect. When we were brought into the little room where our sweet new son was waiting, June gave us lots of time and space to take in this perfect little boy we loved immediately. June completely shared our excitement and made that nervous feeling go away”

— Dave, Sandy and Sawyer

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Adoption Tax Credit – Help Save It

Act Now to Save The Adoption Tax Credit Before It’s Gone! The adoption child tax credit is one of the many parts of the U.S. tax code that could change dramatically on Jan. 1, 2013, if Congress and President Barack Obama do not act. Adoption advocates worry the changes would make adopting a child more difficult for middle income families.… Read More

Tenderly – An Adoption Story

Tenderly Back in the 1950’s one ethnic group seemed to follow another in the neighborhood of my youth. The ethnicity of the teachers in my grade school once dominated, but they were slowly moving out as those of mine moved in. I had long black hair that was my mother’s pride and joy. She brushed it every morning, sometimes pinning it up in braids over my head, sometimes letting it go free. That day in school, my hair swished and swirled around me as I … Read More

APC Adoption Conference in Brooklyn – Nov 18 2012

Adoption Conference – Presented by the Adoptive Parents Committee November 18, 2012 in Brooklyn NY Are you going to the APC Adoption Conference? Drop by and say “Hi” to Dawn and meet the FIA staff members at their Table. http://www.adoptiveparents.org/ This is the 32nd Annual Adoption Conference presented by the Adoptive Parents Committee, Inc.(APC). This year’s conference, a day-long event, will be held on Sunday, November 18, 2012 at St. Francis College, located at 180 Remsen Street, Brooklyn, NY. APC’s annual conference … Read More

Landrieu Introduces Bill to Make Adoption More Affordable

Making Adoption Affordable Act WASHINGTON—U.S. Senator Mary L. Landrieu, D-La., today introduced the Making Adoption Affordable Act to support families that have made the wonderful decision to adopt. The Adoption Tax Credit (ATC) helps defray the sometimes high administrative fees associated with adoptions, ensuring that families that want to adopt are not discouraged by the high cost of the process. The Making Adoption Affordable Act will make the ATC a permanent part of the tax code and make it refundable, which would … Read More

IAC Center Workshops for All Stages of Adoption

Workshop Offerings from the Infertility & Adoption Counseling Center … from the IAC Center Director: Hello, I am sharing IAC Center’s Fall offerings. Our monthly  Pre-Adoptive Parents Support Groups are in Pennington and Montclair NJ; and NYC. In addition, we have a NEW group for families who have been waiting awhile or who have experienced a fall-through. We believe that these couples or singles can succeed with adoption if they are helped to ‘stay the course’ and get the support they need to remain proactive. We … Read More

Huffington Post Family Friday – Submit Your Pics!

FIA Families: Send in your Photos for Family Friday The Huffington Post is asking for photos of LGBT Families for their feature “Family Friday: Share and Celebrate Your Families With Us!”  Each Friday, a selected family will be highlighted with a write up. –>So come on FIA families, submit your photos today! Here’s the original article (with a great gallery of LGBT families): http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/08/17/lgbt-families_n_1797740.html “If you’d like your own family featured on a Family Friday, please email us at gayvoices@huffingtonpost.com. … Read More

Open Adoptions on the Rise

Openness in Adoption Spreading Across the U.S The Wall Street Journal ran a story about how Open Adoptions are on the rise, by Mara Lemos Stein. “As opposed to closed or confidential adoptions, open adoptions allow the adoptive and birth families some degree of contact, which can range from a single, in-person meeting to sharing photos and news periodically, to frequent reunions. In a shift over the past 30 years, the vast majority of domestic adoptions are now open. The … Read More

Act Now to Save $12,650 Adoption Tax Credit!

The current Adoption Tax Credit of $12,650 could be lost at the end of this year, unless you act now! Please help save the Adoption Tax Credit by contacting your representative in Congress. Important note: If your U.S. Representative is a Republican member of Congress it is especially important to contact them about H.R. 4373. This is bipartisan – 2 weeks ago we had seven Democrat Representatives newly cosponsor H.R. 4373. Let’s keep this bill evenly supported! Please take a … Read More

WNYC Radio Talks About Gay Dads

Abbie Goldberg, associate professor of psychology at Clark University, senior research fellow at the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute, regular blogger for Psychology Today and the author of Gay Dads: Transitions to Adoptive Fatherhood, looks at the specific issues faced by gay couples when adopting children. You can listen to a recording of the show from this link: http://tunein.com/topic/?TopicId=40492013

Memories from Friends in Adoption Annual Picnic 2012

Miracles happened at the 30th Friends in Adoption Picnic yesterday. I felt honored to be able to watch. I went up to say hi to one of our kids (young adult) and hugging her, inquired as to where her parents were sitting. She laughed and said- oh, they are at a show so I drove here with one of my friends. I was speaking to an adoptive Mom and Dad. I asked where their son was. “Oh- he’s at camp … Read More

Rhode Island Opens Adoption Records for First Time

Adult Adoptees get Access to Birth Certificates in R.I. On July 2 2012, the state of Rhode Island began issuing original birth certificates to adult adoptees. Read the original new article and video published by The Providence Journal by going to: http://www.providencejournal.com/breaking-news/content/ Video: An excerpt from the news article: PROVIDENCE, R.I. — Dozens of adults who had been adopted as children received their birth certificates Monday after a ceremony at the Rhode Island Health Department. After thanking legislators and advocates … Read More

Testimonial by Brian, a birth father

“We went together and talked to our Case Manager and she told us everything about what FIA stood for and how things would go. She told us about open adoption which I had no idea what it was, but when I found out I was all for it.” —Brian, a birth father

Testimonial from Emma, a birth mother

“My Case Manager was kind, understanding, helpful, and answered every single ridiculous question and listened to everything that had happened without judgment. This, in my opinion, was the start of making this story as amazing as it was.” —Emma, a birth mother

Batter Up!

Does Age Matter When Adopting? How old are you? Adoptive moms and dads can often be on the older end of the spectrum. By the time we realize that adoption is our best option (and a most wonderful option it is), we are older, wiser and creakier. We may share carpooling with women who are almost young enough to be our daughters. On good days or in the early years of parenthood, we may look and feel great and it … Read More

The Get Acquainted Workshop – Review by FIA family

“Today is a very exciting day for both of us as we just officially signed on with FIA. We cannot thank your staff enough for the GAW in Vermont. The information you shared and the knowledge of your staff was just incredible! You all truly made finalizing our decision a very easy process. There is a lot to be said about an organization that can truly convey their passion about what they do…… Read More

GAW review – by Alan and Laura

“Dear FIA Staff, Thank you, again, for organizing such a terrific GAW. We were extremely impressed with all of you and are grateful for the information you provided as well as the issues you raised for discussion and consideration. We’re really glad we attended the workshop and expect to be in…… Read More

FIA Get Acquainted Workshop – Review by Jon and Sara

“Dear FIA, The Get Acquainted workshop was so helpful for Sara and me. We went in knowing that we wanted to adopt, but would have held off if there were any “red flags” that we heard. We fully understand that adoption is a major commitment and didn’t want to have any reservations about it. This workshop erased any reservation/myths about adoption that we had or had heard. We truly feel that FIA cares about both their adoptive parents and birth mothers. Having the staff there to speak with us, both formally and informally really…… Read More

Help Save the Adoption Tax Credit!

Advocate to Save the Adoption Tax Credit! The adoption tax credit is due to “sunset” at the end of this year unless Congress and the Administration act. In February the President proposed making the adoption tax credit permanent in the budget he submitted to Congress for fiscal year 2013, but its fate is uncertain. To read up on the adoption tax credit and to take action to ensure it is continued, click on this link: http://adoptiontaxcredit.org/advocate/ Here’s an excerpt: The current adoption tax credit is … Read More