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Adoption is an Odyssey, by Corvette H.

Adoption is an Odyssey, by Corvette H. “I was not into the idea. Not at all. I had no talent for cradling infants or changing diapers. I didn’t have that need for a brand-new person in my life showing me no respect or teaching me things I didn’t care about — turns out I was wrong about this.”… Read More

Gratitude

Gratitude – the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness. As the Founding Director of Friends in Adoption for inching up to 40 years, I am eternally grateful for the gifts of an incredible staff, a dedicated Board of Directors, all of the attorneys, social workers and counselors who support the work we do and my ever growing Friends in Adoption family. In gratitude to all, Dawn… Read More

Happy Hanukkah 2018

Happy Chanukah!
To all of our friends, families, and prospective adoptive families who celebrate the beautiful Festival of Lights!
As you light each Hanukkah candle, may it shed a lovely ray of light and hope and promise
on you and yours today….
—from all of us at Friends in Adoption… Read More

Learn How to Adopt a Child at FIA’s GAW – Get Acquainted Workshop – January 9 and 10, 2019 in Saratoga Springs, NY

Friends in Adoption (FIA) will be in Saratoga Springs, New York for the next Get Acquainted Workshop — beginning on Wednesday evening, January 9th, 2019 and continuing Thursday all day (8am-4pm), January 10th, 2019. Register now and join us to learn about adoption!… Read More

All About Friends in Adoption’s Get Acquainted Workshop

The Get Acquainted Workshop (GAW) is an in-depth educational opportunity for folks interested learning more about becoming adoptive parents. It’s a chance to learn all about the adoption process firsthand with our agency and to ask all of your adoption questions. The GAW is required for all prospective adoptive families who wish to work with Friends in Adoption, and is often the beginning of the relationship between our agency and you!… Read More

Friends in Adoption attends: “This is Us: Adoption in the REAL World”

Friends in Adoption attends: “This is Us: Adoption in the REAL World” -by Deirdre Graham, Community Outreach Manager A couple weeks ago I was lucky enough to attend: “This is Us; Adoption in the REAL World”, a panel co-moderated by April Dinwoodie, Chief Executive of the Donaldson Adoption Institute (DAI), and Richard Heyl de Ortiz, Executive Director of the Adoptive and … Read More

A Summer Letter From Dawn

FIA’S 35TH ANNUAL PICNIC — A JOYFUL DAY OF CELEBRATION We now have 3 generations of FIA families in attendance at the picnic. Children that were placed through FIA bring their partners and children along with their birth and adoptive families; young adults placed attend on their own just to stay connected; reunions happen at the picnic- truly a day … Read More

In Honor of Birth Mother’s Day ~ 2017

Birth Mother’s Day is just around the corner – May 13th, 2017! In honor of Birth Mother’s Day, FIA is sharing a story from one of our many special families. “We are Kathy and Dave (not pictured), we adopted Lucy 5 years ago. We have a very open adoption with her birth mother and her family. We could not be … Read More

Our future needs us

To All of our LGBTQ+ Families and to the LGBTQ families throughout the country, My heart breaks for our children. As parents we must remain strong and united. We must show our children through action that we will fight for their rights. We will show them by example how to live life in kindness and respect. (read more)… Read More

Annual Giving More Through Adoption Birth Mother Retreat

Each birth mother is as unique as the circumstances leading to that woman’s choice to place her child for adoption. One common thread for birth/first mothers is that adoption is a life-long decision. Life post-adoption is a journey, often with ups and downs, and support along that journey is very helpful. Many women find support in birth mother support groups, and FIA is pleased to spread the word about an upcoming birth mother retreat on November 11-12, 2016, in Clifton Park, NY!… Read More

The Adoption Process from the Expectant Mother’s Perspective

What is it really like to decide on adoption, look through parent profiles to choose a family, and place your child in their arms—and how can the adoption process better serve these women? Article – by Barbara Herel This piece has valuable insights from both Dawn Smith-Pliner and the birthmothers. I often think back to my domestic adoption process as … Read More

Merry Christmas!

Hello Friends ~ FIA received a Holiday card this year that summed up everything we hoped to say in our annual holiday note. To All  ~ “Let there be LAUGHTER JOY SMILES PEACE HOPE ~wishing you happiness that never ends.” We wish to have all experience LAUGHTER, JOY, AND SMILIES in your life’s.   To our  waiting families, it is our … Read More

Love wins!

Friends in Adoption is thrilled with today’s SCOTUS decision on Marriage equality. We congratulate all of our gay, lesbian, transgender and ALL TYPES of families in this very important, historic victory today! Love wins, all families win, all children win!… Read More

When is adoption “done right?”

When is adoption “done right?” Sometimes it is easier to think about the ways something can be “done wrong” in order to be sure we get it right. Any time adoption is not informed by respect and truth, or when it is not voluntary for a placing parent, it is done wrong. Any time adoption moves forward without regard for the (…)… Read More

Thank you Senator Gillibrand for “Every Child Deserves a Family”

LGBTQ & Adoption: “Every Child Deserves a Family” — New York Senator Kirsten Gillibrand has introduced federal legislation that would ensure that LGBTQ individuals and couples have the same adoption rights as heterosexual individuals and couples do. In the news, two Friends in Adoption (FIA) families were recently featured in stories related to this proposed law. … Read More

FAQ: Can I Adopt a Child If I Have a Health Condition?

Q: Can I Adopt a Child If I Have a Health Condition? A: Friends in Adoption is occasionally asked by a prospective adoptive parent if they would be disqualified from adopting a child because of a health condition, either past or present. Like a prospective biological parent, having a health condition does not automatically disqualify a prospective adoptive parent from being…… Read More

Happy Chanukah!

Happy Chanukah to all of our friends, families, and prospective adoptive families who celebrate the beautiful Festival of Lights! As you light each Hanukkah candle, may it shed a lovely ray of light and hope and promise on you and yours today…. From all of us at Friends in Adoption.

Are you Hoping to become a Parent Through Adoption?

The American Academy of Adoption Attorneys is offering a free and open to the public Family Building Expo. Stop by the Friends in Adoption table and say hello to Dawn and Nan! “Creating Your Child’s Story” Saturday, September 20, 2014, 9:30 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. Four Seasons Hotel, One Logan Square, Philadelphia Workshops by the leading national legal experts about … Read More

Adoption Information in Any Language

Each year, FIA is asked by health care professionals and other advocates if we can assist a woman or couple with an adoption plan if they do not speak English. The answer is and has been, YES!  Women’s issues are women’s issues, regardless of spoken language, and compassionate adoption is not limited only to those who speak English. Women and couples for whom English is not their first language may be considering adoption as an option for an unplanned pregnancy. Friends in Adoption is happy to work with anyone interested in learning more about adoption regardless of communication style or language.… Read More

Photo Album: Friends in Adoption 32nd Annual Picnic – 2014

The Friends in Adoption 32nd Annual Picnic was perfect! Perfect weather, perfect fun, perfect energy and perfect spirit of family. This photo album is just a small sample of all the fun. We hope to see everyone again, soon! If you took your own photos at the picnic, please like, share, and post your photos under the hashtag #fiapicnic2014 so we can find … Read More

Robert Klose Adoption Quote

I realized at the start that whether a child is biological or adopted, one does not know all the ingredients in the package. That is what growth is all about. A child is the slowest flower in the world, opening petal by petal, revealing the developing personality within. -Robert Klose, Adoptive parent

One Final Call to Action – Save the Adoption Tax Credit!

Thank you to all who have participated in the Grassroots Advocacy Campaign to Save the Adoption Tax Credit! One final call to action! In this last week of our grassroots campaign, please check congress.gov and see which Members of Congress have become cosponsors of S.1056 and H.R.2144. This is a chance to thank those representatives who are supporting the bill! … Read More

The Latest on Advocating for the Adoption Tax Credit (ATC)

Did you know?  Members of Congress working on tax reform have said that for any element of the current tax code to remain, it should do one or all of the following:  1) grow the economy, 2) make the tax code fairer, and, 3) effectively promote an important policy objective. And guess what? A refundable adoption tax credit does all … Read More

Language in Adoption: What’s in a name?

Language in Adoption: What’s in a name? by Dawn Smith Pliner, Founding Director, Friends in Adoption Birthmom? First mom? Natural mom? Does that make me an Adoptive mom? A Second mom? Or an Unnatural mom? Language is powerful — it can be helpful and it can be hurtful. Many years ago I called a pregnant woman who was considering adoption a … Read More

A New Friend

Nan and I recently had the honor of meeting Meg, the Founder and Executive Director of Plants for Patients. I knew our organizations were soul mates when I read from their website this paragraph: “Plants for Patients is an idea; it’s a framework for doing good work in our communities. The program identifies as neither pro-choice nor anti-abortion, but exists in the space between, a space we call pro-compassion. This framework allows us to warmly welcome people of differing views, beliefs and opinions to support women in need.” … Read More

From Hollywood to Downton Abbey… Adoption on the Screen

Modern-FamilyFor as long as it took adoption to change over the past hundred years, it has taken popular media even longer to catch on to accurate depictions of adoption in film and television. Until the television show Modern Family came out with Cam and Mitchell adopting internationally and then going through the process to adopt domestically, there was virtually no real currency regarding the issues around adoption on television.… Read More

Please Help FIA advocate for the Adoption Tax Credit!

The Issue: Last week, the Chairman of the Ways and Means Committee released his tax reform proposal and to our dismay, the proposal eliminates the adoption tax credit. Our grassroots advocacy efforts are needed now more than ever before. Please help us reach every single member of Congress by sharing your real stories!  Outreach to your legislators is the only … Read More

Please HELP Make Adoption Tax Credit Permanent!

Friends in Adoption (FIA) is a member organization of The Adoption Tax Credit Working Group. We are helping to spread the word about the need for continued advocacy for a PERMANENT, REFUNDABLE adoption tax credit through a Grassroots Advocacy Campaign. Please help! The Goal? The Adoption Tax Credit Working Group (ATCWG) would like to obtain 30 Co-Sponsors on the Adoption … Read More

Press Release: “FIA receives HRC’s All Children – All Families Seal of Recognition”

Friends in Adoption (FIA), a licensed, non-profit adoption agency, recently received the Human Rights Campaign Foundation’s All Children – All Families Seal of Recognition as a 2014 Leader in Supporting and Serving LGBT Families. Since its inception in 1982, FIA was one of the pioneer agencies in welcoming all families to adoption and from its early years has promoted adoption by qualified adoptive parents regardless of their sexual orientation. Upon learning about the Human Rights Campaign Foundation (HRC) All Children – All Families cultural competency certification, FIA enthusiastically signed on to participate.… Read More

FIA Needs Your Photos for the FIA: Keep It Real Project

FIA Introduces…

The Keep it Real Project: Real Adoptions. Real People. Real Images.

Calling All FIA Family Members!

FIA loves featuring photos of REAL FIA ALUMNI. Portraying actual FIA family members (birth and adoptive) in our print and electronic publications, as opposed to using stock photos, are the only way to keep it real! If you and/or your family members are interested in being a part of this exciting project, please click on the link below and from there you will be able to send us your best 1-3 family photos…… Read More

Share the Love

Friends in Adoption Announces the 1st Annual SHARE THE LOVE Campaign **UPDATE Feb 14, 2014** A big Valentine’s Day hug to all those that have contributed to the 1st Annual FIA Share the Love Campaign. The FIA family continues to grow with the addition of four new families created so far in 2014! A raffle winner drawn from participants will … Read More

Poem – Legacy of an Adopted Child

Adopted Children Are Product Of Two Different Kinds Of Love By Abigail Van Buren | Dear Abby – Wed, Mar 6, 2013 DEAR ABBY: While cleaning out my attic yesterday, I found a letter that my daughter wrote to you a few years ago when she was 13. She was responding to a poem that had appeared in your column, “Legacy of … Read More

Consider a Donation to Friends in Adoption

As you plan for your year-end contributions, please consider donating to Friends in Adoption (FIA) to help us continue our lifelong work supporting the family of adoption, and for continuing to serve as a community resource for adoption advocacy and education. Your generous financial support, along with your voices, greatly help advance this important work and are appreciated! FIA is a not-for-profit agency. We rely in part on the generous gifts of our alumni, supporters, and friends. All contributions are tax-deductible. FIA is doing more now than ever before to create and care for families created through Compassionate Adoption. Thank you, in advance, for your generosity!… Read More

FIA and HRC: All Children – All Families

Friends in Adoption (FIA) was one of the pioneer agencies in welcoming all families to the family of adoption and from its early years has promoted adoption by lesbian and gay parents. Upon learning about the Human Rights Coalition (HRC) All Children – All Families cultural competency certification, FIA enthusiastically signed on to participate. HRC’s All Children – All Families … Read More

Press Release: “FIA defends reproductive rights and highlights best practice to celebrate National Adoption Awareness Month”

Friends in Adoption, licensed non-profit agency, defends reproductive rights and highlights best practice to celebrate November — National Adoption Awareness Month. FIA believes it is important for women and couples facing a pregnancy decision to learn about all their legal options – knowing that they may be considering parenting, adoption, or abortion – and its ethical approach is to listen and provide information and support to those individuals, without telling them which decision they should make.… Read More

Exciting News – We’ve Moved!

EXCITING NEWS It’s official ~ FIA’s main office is now located in Poultney, Vermont. Our new mailing address: 212 Main Street Poultney, Vermont 05764 Our telephone and fax numbers remain the same. Call 1-800-98-ADOPT (1-800-982-3678) to reach us. ~ Poultney gives a warm welcome to Friends in Adoption (FIA). Surrounded by an alternative high school across the street, a college … Read More

FAQ: I don’t know anything about open adoption. Can you tell me about it?

Q: I don’t know anything about open adoption. Can you tell me about it? A: Open adoption enables communication between expectant/birth parents and adoptive birth parents before and/or after placement of a child with the adoptive family. Open adoption may include sharing information, letters, emails, calls, texts, and or face-to face visits…… Read More

What’s the difference between open adoption and closed adoption?

Q: What’s the difference between Open Adoption and Closed Adoption? A: Open Adoption vs Closed Adoption means, among many other factors, that there are different levels of post-adoption contact. In open adoption, there is an ongoing direct relationship between the child and the birth family…… Read More

FAQ: What is open adoption and are all adoptions with FIA open?

Q: What is open adoption and are all adoptions with FIA open? A: Open adoption generally means there is an ongoing direct relationship between the child and the birth family. FIA adheres to “Hospitious Adoption”. Jim Gritter, author of Hospitious Adoption takes the approach that practicing goodwill, respect, and courage within the realm of adoption makes the process unfold more smoothly and enriches children’s lives… Read More

FAQ: What is the average cost of an adoption through FIA?

Q: What is the average cost of an adoption through FIA? A: The cost of an adoption averages between $25,000 and $45,000. Costs generally incurred by the adopting couple/single are: agency fee, home study fees, advertising and outreach fees, counseling fees, legal fees, telephone and travel expenses, and in some cases medical expenses… Read More

FAQ: Are all adoptions that FIA handles open adoption?

Q: Are all adoptions that Friends in Adoption (FIA) handles open adoption? A: No, the type of post-adoption contact varies depending on the birth parents and adoptive parents that are involved. For example, if you call our toll-free number and… Read More

FIA Family Explains how DOMA affects their Lives

Winchester, Mass. couple closely watching DOMA ruling News Story originally broadcast by their Local News Station NECN. Click Here to read original story and to watch the video. Joe and Graham are Adoptive Parents (with their daughter Emily) working with Friends in Adoption for their second adoption. …. original story … (NECN) – The Supreme Court ruling on DOMA will … Read More

FAQ: I am afraid of being judged . . . if I call your agency, what can I expect?

Q: I am afraid of being judged . . . if I call your agency, what can I expect? A: At FIA, we pledge to not judge you! No matter your circumstance, we are here to listen and not judge. We know it’s hard to talk about personal issues with a stranger, but sometimes it is easier than to talk with people who are trying to influence you to do a certain thing. …… Read More

FAQ: If I eventually decide on adoption, what would be the next step?

Q: If I eventually decide on adoption, what would be the next step? A: When (and if) you are ready to move forward in making an adoption plan, FIA will connect you with an experienced staff member who will walk you through the details of making an adoption plan that feels right for you and your child…… Read More

FAQ: I think I would like a closed adoption. Can FIA help me?

Q: I think I would like a closed adoption. Can FIA help me? A: Yes! Friends in Adoption (FIA) strongly respects the birth parents’ wishes regarding whether or not there will be post-adoption contact with the adoptive family. FIA takes a person’s right to privacy very seriously and takes measures to assure all adoptions are done in a respectful and compassionate manner… Read More

FAQ: What was it like to give up your baby?

Q: “What was it like to give up your baby? Did you get to see him/her? At any stage, did you feel any guilt or selfishness?” A: “Placing my child for adoption was a decision I had thought about a lot while I was pregnant and I knew that’s what I wanted for my baby. I was unable to give him or her all that they needed. I was lucky and got to meet the adoptive parents that I…… Read More

Meet Our Potential Adoptive Families

Read adoption profiles of potential adoptive parents Meet Our Potential Adoptive Families Are you pregnant and considering adoption? Perhaps you feel ready to start reviewing profiles of potential candidates as adoptive parents for your child… If so, you can read online profiles of prospective adoptive families that have been carefully screened by Friends in Adoption and are legally approved to … Read More

Adoption Survey – Second Call for Participation

Second Call to Participate in Important Adoption Research Adam Pertman, executive director of the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute shared: “We’ve had very good response to our initial call for respondents to our study. If you have already filled out a survey and/or disseminated our request, thank you enormously.  If you have not, please participate/help if you can. The most … Read More

Secrets of Adoption

Friends in Adoption (FIA) continues to be a national voice in addressing adoption myths and helping educate on open adoption in our society. Check out this CBS New York online article for prospective adoptive parents… “Secrets of Adoption: What To Know Before You Adopt a Child Home.” FIA founding director Dawn Smith Pliner is quoted throughout. Click this link to … Read More

Re-Homing Children – FIA’s Thoughts

FIA Staff Shares Thoughts on Re-Homing Children Those who follow adoption news may have read the recent Reuters Investigative Report that exposes the topic of “re-homing” children who were adopted from other countries. The report focuses on a population of unprepared adoptive parents who have sought to place their adopted children in other U.S. homes via the Internet. The staff … Read More

Father’s Rights in Adoption: An Overview

One of the questions which you may face when considering a New York adoption placement is whether the birth father has the legal right to interfere with or upset the adoption. This summary is intended to help you understand these rights so that you may effectively respond to a placement which may be presented. To begin with, the mother’s consent is required … Read More

Adoption Survey Needs Your Input

Please consider participating in this important research about the Internet and Adoption! “Shaping thoughtful, humane and ethical laws, policies and practices requires knowledge. Even though the Internet and social media are forever changing adoption, however, we know little about their impact on the tens of millions of people affected.” As a follow up to the 2012 research report entitled, Untangling … Read More

Ryan’s Story: A Birth Father

“Patty told us everything about what FIA stood for and about how things would go. She told us about open adoption — I had no idea what it was, but when I found out, I was all for it. …. Going through a teen pregnancy was definitely one of the hardest things I have had to go through, but I believe everything happens for a reason.”” src=”https://www.friendsinadoption.orgadoption-guide/wp-content/uploads/2013/07/Ryan-Story-Birth-Father-Adoption-300×234.jpg” width=”300″ height=”234″ /> “Patty told us everything about what FIA stood for and about how things would go. She told us about open adoption — I had no idea what it was, but when I found out, I was all for it. …. Going through a teen pregnancy was definitely one of the hardest things I have had to go through, but I believe everything happens for a reason.” …… Read More

End of DOMA Doesn’t Mean Adoption Equality for Same-Sex Couples

Originally written by: Rebecca Ruiz, TODAY contributor Click HERE to read original article Marcie Fisher-Borne was overjoyed when the Supreme Court struck down a key part of the Defense of Marriage Act last month: The federal government would finally acknowledge her same-sex marriage. Yet, there was one critical thing the DOMA ruling couldn’t give either Marcie or her wife Chantelle: … Read More

Welcome Home, John!

“Beth was our main contact at Friends in Adoption (FIA) while we were active and prior to the birth of our son, she is very kind and caring. Beth is very committed to taking care of the waiting families and guiding them through the process. At our request, we checked in with Beth monthly to get an update on how many of our profiles went out in the prior month. She was very accommodating to this request and always responded quickly and with as much detail as possible. We appreciated Beth’s coordination of the Stay Acquainted meetings; we found it very helpful during our waiting period.”

Trish and Matt, adoptive parents

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New Study on Adoption, Family Diversity

Update: Some external hyperlinks links for this article have been removed and the text below is for research purposes only. Reason: The links will take our readers to a broken page. The original URLs were kept within the text, but with added spaces to eliminate the hyperlinks. INSTITUTE SEEKS ADOPTIVE PARENTS FOR NEW STUDY ON FAMILY DIVERSITY The Donaldson Adoption Institute is … Read More

Welcome Home, Colton!

“My husband and I truly enjoyed working with Beth at Friends in Adoption (FIA), just speaking with her would make things okay. The moment that stays in my mind working with Beth is when my husband and I were matched with a birth mom that changed her mind and did not place. Beth was extremely supportive to us as well as having compassion for the birth mom. Beth clearly wants what is best for everyone involved. She is extremely passionate about her work and I will never forget the look of excitement on her face when I stopped by to introduce her to our recently adopted son.” — Steve and Bonnie, adoptive parents… Read More