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There’s still time for your donation to be credited on your 2020 taxes!

There’s still time for your donation to be credited on your 2020 taxes! Friends in Adoption (FIA) is a non-profit agency providing comprehensive resources and support to all members of the adoption triad. When you choose to donate to FIA, you’re backing an organization that values and promotes Open Adoption and Inclusiveness. All donations to Friends in Adoption are tax-deductible.… Read More

National Adoption Month is ending but FIA’s work continues – a Times Union interview

“Adoptions a year-round effort for support agency”. The Times Union interviews Friends in Adoption for November National Adoption Awareness Month. It has been one of FIA’s major goals to inform and educate the general public in order to make a difference for those in the adoption triad.… Read More

“FIA continues to support us post-adoption”

Video: Adoptive parents share post-adoption and open adoption stories. Friends in Adoption (FIA) got together with a few alumni families via Zoom and asked them about their experience adopting through FIA. Here’s what they had to say.… Read More

What It Was Like Adopting Through FIA During a Pandemic

Video: Is it Possible to Adopt a Child During a Pandemic? YES! Friends in Adoption conducted interviews via Zoom to ask Friends in Adoption alumni families about their experiences adopting during the COVID-19 pandemic.… Read More

Press Release: November is National Adoption Awareness Month

National Adoption Month is just around the corner, taking place during the month of November. Friends in Adoption, a not-for-profit adoption agency operating nationwide with offices in Saratoga Springs and Ossining, New York, and Castleton, Vermont, is sharing adoption stories all month with the goal of raising awareness about adoption.… Read More

Everything You Need to Know About Adopting a Newborn

All parents who bring home newborn babies need and deserve lots of support. Taking care of an infant can be daunting, especially for first-time parents who aren’t sure what to expect. When you adopt a newborn through Friends in Adoption (FIA), you’ll have access to caring and knowledge professionals who will walk alongside you throughout the adoption process and who can help to answer questions once you’ve brought your baby home.… Read More

Here are some of the most common questions our caseworkers receive:

Here are answers to some of the most common questions our caseworkers receive: I’m unsure of what to do. Should I see a counselor? Will I be able to choose the adoptive parents? Can I meet the potential adoptive family that I’m considering? When it comes time to give birth, what happens? Am I eligible for some sort of financial support during my pregnancy? … Read More

“Happy Finalization Day!” to Allison, Beth Anne, and Zachary!

Friends in Adoption is thrilled to announce that Allison and Beth Anne from Chicago, IL finalized the adoption of their son Zachary on the first week of August, 2020. Despite the obstacles raised by the COVID pandemic, Allison & Beth Anne, with the help of the team at FIA, were able to get from Chicago to New York to connect with baby Zachary. We are grateful they shared photos and details of their adoption journey!… Read More

“Happy Finalization Day!” to Justin, Michael, Oliver, and Vivian!

Congratulations to Justin, Michael, and their son Oliver on welcoming home baby Vivian. Friends in Adoption was busy during July week with five happy adoption finalizations — all with social distancing observed. If you are looking for cheerful news and something to smile about during the pandemic, here’s some beautiful and happy photos of this family.… Read More

June is National Pride Month!

Friends in Adoption is Proud to celebrate Pride! The month of June commemorates the 1969 Stonewall Riots in New York City, a pivotal event in the early stages of the LGBTQ+ Rights Movement. Pride Month is revered throughout the country and is a wonderful time to honor, cheer and celebrate the many facets of LGBTQ+ experiences. At Friends in Adoption we celebrate Pride this month and every month! FIA will always proudly stand with the LGBTQ+ community, we celebrate all … Read More

Human Rights Campaign Foundation Recognizes Friends in Adoption for LGBTQ-Inclusion Efforts

FIA, a fully inclusive adoption agency, proudly announces that it is being recognized in Change-Makers in Child Welfare 2020 — a report highlighting the HRC Foundation’s All Children – All Families (ACAF) program’s partnership with organizations across the country working to improve the services they provide to the LGBTQ community.… Read More

Ask Your Adoption Agency these 5 Important Questions

Selecting an adoption agency to guide you through adopting a child is an important part of your adoption journey. Be sure to research any agency you’re considering, and ask as many questions as you need to in order to feel confident in your ultimate decision. Friends in Adoption is sharing 5 questions we recommend asking adoption agencies you’re thinking about engaging.… Read More

Daddy Squared interviews Friends in Adoption

Friends in Adoption was interviewed by Daddy Squared, a gay parenting podcast. The episode focused on providing adoption information to a couple in the initial steps of starting the adoption process. They interviewed FIA about the many aspects of the adoption process — including the financial expectations of an adoption process and the rights of pregnant individuals considering making an adoption plan, and many other interesting questions revolving around adoption by same-sex couples.… Read More

EJ, Stever, and Makenna share their adoption story on TV

Video: Adoption options for families. EJ, Stever, and Makenna are a beautiful and loving Friends in Adoption family. They were featured in this news segment today, as reported by Christina Guessferd – WCAX of WCAX News. Check it out!… Read More

Friends in Adoption offers Lifelong Connections!

Friends in Adoption offers Lifelong Connections! November is National Adoption Month, and before it comes to a close, it’s important to us to remind our alumni and prospective adoptive parents of the full range of services provided by Friends in Adoption. In particular, we want to emphasize our commitment to providing our alumni families with lifelong support, because we believe the availability of post-adoption services promotes positive outcomes and experiences for all those touched by adoption.… Read More

Spectrum News converses with Friends in Adoption!

Spectrum News converses with Friends in Adoption! Matt Hunter, reporter with Spectrum News, spent an afternoon interviewing FIA alumni Colby and Tifanie and Ron and Katharine, about their experiences with being new parents. Matt also spoke with Patty Smith, FIA’s Case Manager and Community Outreach Provider working out of Glenville, Schenectady County, NY.… Read More

November is National Adoption Awareness Month!

November is National Adoption Month! We hope you celebrate this unique month by spreading positive messages about adoption! This month and every month, Friends in Adoption is always committed to the compassionate treatment of everyone involved in the adoption process; the adoptive families and pregnant women/couples making an adoption plan, while keeping the central focus on the needs of each child.… Read More

Understanding the Language of Adoption

Understanding the Language of Adoption Friends in Adoption (FIA) is committed to empowering individuals and families during all stages of the adoption process and throughout their lives. FIA promotes a compassionate approach to inclusive and open adoptions, and demystifying the language of adoption furthers our mission. The words we choose shape how we, and those around us, think about situations and concepts we encounter in our everyday lives. Being thoughtful about the language we use when speaking about adoption helps … Read More

This Is Me… Part Three ~ By: Kayleigh Putnam

If you’re just tuning in to my Friends In Adoption (FIA) blog, my first blog talks about my adoption and how I felt growing up as an adopted child. My second blog is about how I met my biological sister (who I just recently found out existed!) when she was visiting our aunt in Rhode Island. It was an incredible experience and one of the best days of my life. Today, I will tell you about how I met my mother. … Read More

Friends in Adoption, proud to be at New York City Pride!

This year in New York City, pride month wrapped up thirty days of festivities with a day-long parade and festivals honoring World Pride . The celebration commemorated the 50th anniversary of Stonewall, a series of riots during the sixties that launched the ongoing movement for LGBTQ+ rights. Friends in Adoption had the privilege of tabling at Pride.… Read More

All About Friends in Adoption’s Get Acquainted Workshop

The Get Acquainted Workshop (GAW) is an in-depth educational opportunity for folks interested learning more about becoming adoptive parents. It’s a chance to learn all about the adoption process firsthand with our agency and to ask all of your adoption questions. The GAW is required for all prospective adoptive families who wish to work with Friends in Adoption, and is often the beginning of the relationship between our agency and you!… Read More

Seems like just yesterday ~ by: Lisa, Tina, Ben, & Zach

We have been thinking about FIA a lot over the past few months. As Ben approaches his 18th birthday and high school graduation, we are reminded everyday how grateful we are for the major role FIA played in creating our family. While Ben has grown into an incredible young man, it still sometimes seems like just yesterday, we were attending our first FIA workshop and dreaming of starting a family! You will forever hold a place in our hearts! With Love,
Lisa, Tina, Ben & Zach… Read More

Gratitude

Gratitude – the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness. As the Founding Director of Friends in Adoption for inching up to 40 years, I am eternally grateful for the gifts of an incredible staff, a dedicated Board of Directors, all of the attorneys, social workers and counselors who support the work we do and my ever growing Friends in Adoption family. In gratitude to all, Dawn… Read More

Friends in Adoption attends: “This is Us: Adoption in the REAL World”

Friends in Adoption attends: “This is Us: Adoption in the REAL World” -by Deirdre Graham, Community Outreach Manager A couple weeks ago I was lucky enough to attend: “This is Us; Adoption in the REAL World”, a panel co-moderated by April Dinwoodie, Chief Executive of the Donaldson Adoption Institute (DAI), and Richard Heyl de Ortiz, Executive Director of the Adoptive and Foster Family Coalition of New York (AFFCNY). The event was held at The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Community Center … Read More

A Summer Letter From Dawn

FIA’S 35TH ANNUAL PICNIC — A JOYFUL DAY OF CELEBRATION We now have 3 generations of FIA families in attendance at the picnic. Children that were placed through FIA bring their partners and children along with their birth and adoptive families; young adults placed attend on their own just to stay connected; reunions happen at the picnic- truly a day to celebrate our families! OF INTEREST. A responsibility of a parent is to do their best to have their child/ren … Read More

Our future needs us

To All of our LGBTQ+ Families and to the LGBTQ families throughout the country, My heart breaks for our children. As parents we must remain strong and united. We must show our children through action that we will fight for their rights. We will show them by example how to live life in kindness and respect. (read more)… Read More

The Adoption Process from the Expectant Mother’s Perspective

What is it really like to decide on adoption, look through parent profiles to choose a family, and place your child in their arms—and how can the adoption process better serve these women? Article – by Barbara Herel This piece has valuable insights from both Dawn Smith-Pliner and the birthmothers. I often think back to my domestic adoption process as a hopeful adoptive mom. While I was diligently crossing off the many tangible to-dos—fingerprints, financials, physicals—my daughter’s birth mother was … Read More

Honoring all Fathers

Friends in Adoption honors all fathers – birth, adoptive, and future dads – on this special day. Thank you to all the devoted, caring, loving, supportive, nurturing fathers, whether birth or adoptive. You are special! Friends in Adoption celebrates you!… Read More

Love wins!

Friends in Adoption is thrilled with today’s SCOTUS decision on Marriage equality. We congratulate all of our gay, lesbian, transgender and ALL TYPES of families in this very important, historic victory today! Love wins, all families win, all children win!… Read More

When is adoption “done right?”

When is adoption “done right?” Sometimes it is easier to think about the ways something can be “done wrong” in order to be sure we get it right. Any time adoption is not informed by respect and truth, or when it is not voluntary for a placing parent, it is done wrong. Any time adoption moves forward without regard for the (…)… Read More

Thank you Senator Gillibrand for “Every Child Deserves a Family”

LGBTQ & Adoption: “Every Child Deserves a Family” — New York Senator Kirsten Gillibrand has introduced federal legislation that would ensure that LGBTQ individuals and couples have the same adoption rights as heterosexual individuals and couples do. In the news, two Friends in Adoption (FIA) families were recently featured in stories related to this proposed law. … Read More

FAQ: Can I Adopt a Child If I Have a Health Condition?

Q: Can I Adopt a Child If I Have a Health Condition? A: Friends in Adoption is occasionally asked by a prospective adoptive parent if they would be disqualified from adopting a child because of a health condition, either past or present. Like a prospective biological parent, having a health condition does not automatically disqualify a prospective adoptive parent from being…… Read More

Are you Hoping to become a Parent Through Adoption?

The American Academy of Adoption Attorneys is offering a free and open to the public Family Building Expo. Stop by the Friends in Adoption table and say hello to Dawn and Nan! “Creating Your Child’s Story” Saturday, September 20, 2014, 9:30 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. Four Seasons Hotel, One Logan Square, Philadelphia Workshops by the leading national legal experts about adoption, foster care and family creation. Dawn Smith Pliner, Founding Director of Friends in Adoption will be speaking on Open … Read More

Adoption Information in Any Language

Each year, FIA is asked by health care professionals and other advocates if we can assist a woman or couple with an adoption plan if they do not speak English. The answer is and has been, YES!  Women’s issues are women’s issues, regardless of spoken language, and compassionate adoption is not limited only to those who speak English. Women and couples for whom English is not their first language may be considering adoption as an option for an unplanned pregnancy. Friends in Adoption is happy to work with anyone interested in learning more about adoption regardless of communication style or language.… Read More

Photo Album: Friends in Adoption 32nd Annual Picnic – 2014

The Friends in Adoption 32nd Annual Picnic was perfect! Perfect weather, perfect fun, perfect energy and perfect spirit of family. This photo album is just a small sample of all the fun. We hope to see everyone again, soon! If you took your own photos at the picnic, please like, share, and post your photos under the hashtag #fiapicnic2014 so we can find them! To enlarge any of the images in this slideshow, just click or tap on the thumbnails below:

2014 AAAA Conference Photos

Dawn and Nan recently attended the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys (AAAA) Conference in New Orleans and networked with adoption attorneys and professionals all over the country. FIA appreciates working with many of our AAAA friends!… Read More

Robert Klose Adoption Quote

I realized at the start that whether a child is biological or adopted, one does not know all the ingredients in the package. That is what growth is all about. A child is the slowest flower in the world, opening petal by petal, revealing the developing personality within. -Robert Klose, Adoptive parent

One Final Call to Action – Save the Adoption Tax Credit!

Thank you to all who have participated in the Grassroots Advocacy Campaign to Save the Adoption Tax Credit! One final call to action! In this last week of our grassroots campaign, please check congress.gov and see which Members of Congress have become cosponsors of S.1056 and H.R.2144. This is a chance to thank those representatives who are supporting the bill! Please tell them how important this credit is to your family and how much you appreciate their fighting to protect … Read More

Saving the Adoption Tax Credit!

Let’s Keep It Going! When something is worth pursuing, even when it is a challenge, it is important that we don’t give up! Every day, hundreds of people reach out to their representatives in Congress about a whole host of issues. Sometimes it takes more than one try to get their attention, so please continue to bring to light the important issue of protecting a REFUNDABLE and permanent adoption tax credit! If you have already contacted your representative and have not … Read More

The Latest on Advocating for the Adoption Tax Credit (ATC)

Did you know?  Members of Congress working on tax reform have said that for any element of the current tax code to remain, it should do one or all of the following:  1) grow the economy, 2) make the tax code fairer, and, 3) effectively promote an important policy objective. And guess what? A refundable adoption tax credit does all three things. How does the ATC Save Money? A 2006 study cited by the U.S. Department of Health and Human … Read More

Language in Adoption: What’s in a name?

Language in Adoption: What’s in a name? by Dawn Smith Pliner, Founding Director, Friends in Adoption Birthmom? First mom? Natural mom? Does that make me an Adoptive mom? A Second mom? Or an Unnatural mom? Language is powerful — it can be helpful and it can be hurtful. Many years ago I called a pregnant woman who was considering adoption a birthmom. She was livid. I was quickly put into my place as she tersely informed me that until she arrived upon … Read More

A New Friend

Nan and I recently had the honor of meeting Meg, the Founder and Executive Director of Plants for Patients. I knew our organizations were soul mates when I read from their website this paragraph: “Plants for Patients is an idea; it’s a framework for doing good work in our communities. The program identifies as neither pro-choice nor anti-abortion, but exists in the space between, a space we call pro-compassion. This framework allows us to warmly welcome people of differing views, beliefs and opinions to support women in need.” … Read More

Your Adoption Tax Credit Advocacy is WORKING!!

Please keep it up and if you haven’t helped out yet, please do! The time to make a few calls is now. It won’t take much time but those calls have a great effect. Members of Congress act on issues when they believe those issues matter to their constituents. Now that the adoption tax credit is under threat, your three members of Congress need to understand how important this tax credit is to adoptive families. The more you reach out … Read More

From Hollywood to Downton Abbey… Adoption on the Screen

For as long as it took adoption to change over the past hundred years, it has taken popular media even longer to catch on to accurate depictions of adoption in film and television. Until the television show Modern Family came out with Cam and Mitchell adopting internationally and then going through the process to adopt domestically, there was virtually no real currency regarding the issues around adoption on television.… Read More

Please Help FIA advocate for the Adoption Tax Credit!

The Issue: Last week, the Chairman of the Ways and Means Committee released his tax reform proposal and to our dismay, the proposal eliminates the adoption tax credit. Our grassroots advocacy efforts are needed now more than ever before. Please help us reach every single member of Congress by sharing your real stories!  Outreach to your legislators is the only way to protect the adoption tax credit. Legislators only need to hear from 20 constituents about an issue before it … Read More

Please HELP Make Adoption Tax Credit Permanent!

Friends in Adoption (FIA) is a member organization of The Adoption Tax Credit Working Group. We are helping to spread the word about the need for continued advocacy for a PERMANENT, REFUNDABLE adoption tax credit through a Grassroots Advocacy Campaign. Please help! The Goal? The Adoption Tax Credit Working Group (ATCWG) would like to obtain 30 Co-Sponsors on the Adoption Tax Credit (ATC) Refundability Bills: S. 1056 and H.R. 2144 in 100 days. Why the urgency? Tax discussions are underway … Read More

Press Release: “FIA receives HRC’s All Children – All Families Seal of Recognition”

Friends in Adoption (FIA), a licensed, non-profit adoption agency, recently received the Human Rights Campaign Foundation’s All Children – All Families Seal of Recognition as a 2014 Leader in Supporting and Serving LGBT Families. Since its inception in 1982, FIA was one of the pioneer agencies in welcoming all families to adoption and from its early years has promoted adoption by qualified adoptive parents regardless of their sexual orientation. Upon learning about the Human Rights Campaign Foundation (HRC) All Children – All Families cultural competency certification, FIA enthusiastically signed on to participate.… Read More

FIA Needs Your Photos for the FIA: Keep It Real Project

FIA Introduces…

The Keep it Real Project: Real Adoptions. Real People. Real Images.

Calling All FIA Family Members!

FIA loves featuring photos of REAL FIA ALUMNI. Portraying actual FIA family members (birth and adoptive) in our print and electronic publications, as opposed to using stock photos, are the only way to keep it real! If you and/or your family members are interested in being a part of this exciting project, please click on the link below and from there you will be able to send us your best 1-3 family photos…… Read More

Poem – Legacy of an Adopted Child

Adopted Children Are Product Of Two Different Kinds Of Love By Abigail Van Buren | Dear Abby – Wed, Mar 6, 2013 DEAR ABBY: While cleaning out my attic yesterday, I found a letter that my daughter wrote to you a few years ago when she was 13. She was responding to a poem that had appeared in your column, “Legacy of an Adopted Child.” She was going through a very trying time and was being bullied because she was adopted and … Read More

Consider a Donation to Friends in Adoption

As you plan for your year-end contributions, please consider donating to Friends in Adoption (FIA) to help us continue our lifelong work supporting the family of adoption, and for continuing to serve as a community resource for adoption advocacy and education. Your generous financial support, along with your voices, greatly help advance this important work and are appreciated! FIA is a not-for-profit agency. We rely in part on the generous gifts of our alumni, supporters, and friends. All contributions are tax-deductible. FIA is doing more now than ever before to create and care for families created through Compassionate Adoption. Thank you, in advance, for your generosity!… Read More

FIA and HRC: All Children – All Families

Friends in Adoption (FIA) was one of the pioneer agencies in welcoming all families to the family of adoption and from its early years has promoted adoption by lesbian and gay parents. Upon learning about the Human Rights Coalition (HRC) All Children – All Families cultural competency certification, FIA enthusiastically signed on to participate. HRC’s All Children – All Families project “provides a framework for agencies to achieve safety, permanency and well-being by improving their practice with lesbian, gay, bisexual … Read More

Press Release: “FIA defends reproductive rights and highlights best practice to celebrate National Adoption Awareness Month”

Friends in Adoption, licensed non-profit agency, defends reproductive rights and highlights best practice to celebrate November — National Adoption Awareness Month. FIA believes it is important for women and couples facing a pregnancy decision to learn about all their legal options – knowing that they may be considering parenting, adoption, or abortion – and its ethical approach is to listen and provide information and support to those individuals, without telling them which decision they should make.… Read More

FAQ: I don’t know anything about open adoption. Can you tell me about it?

Q: I don’t know anything about open adoption. Can you tell me about it? A: Open adoption enables communication between expectant/birth parents and adoptive birth parents before and/or after placement of a child with the adoptive family. Open adoption may include sharing information, letters, emails, calls, texts, and or face-to face visits…… Read More

What’s the difference between open adoption and closed adoption?

Q: What’s the difference between Open Adoption and Closed Adoption? A: Open Adoption vs Closed Adoption means, among many other factors, that there are different levels of post-adoption contact. In open adoption, there is an ongoing direct relationship between the child and the birth family…… Read More

FAQ: What is open adoption and are all adoptions with FIA open?

Q: What is open adoption and are all adoptions with FIA open? A: Open adoption generally means there is an ongoing direct relationship between the child and the birth family. FIA adheres to “Hospitious Adoption”. Jim Gritter, author of Hospitious Adoption takes the approach that practicing goodwill, respect, and courage within the realm of adoption makes the process unfold more smoothly and enriches children’s lives… Read More

FAQ: What is the average cost of an adoption through FIA?

Q: What is the average cost of an adoption through FIA? A: The cost of an adoption averages between $25,000 and $45,000. Costs generally incurred by the adopting couple/single are: agency fee, home study fees, advertising and outreach fees, counseling fees, legal fees, telephone and travel expenses, and in some cases medical expenses… Read More

FIA Family Explains how DOMA affects their Lives

Winchester, Mass. couple closely watching DOMA ruling News Story originally broadcast by their Local News Station NECN. Click Here to read original story and to watch the video. Joe and Graham are Adoptive Parents (with their daughter Emily) working with Friends in Adoption for their second adoption. …. original story … (NECN) – The Supreme Court ruling on DOMA will impact same sex couples across the nation. We talked to one such family from Winchester, Mass (video below, may not … Read More

FAQ: I am afraid of being judged . . . if I call your agency, what can I expect?

Q: I am afraid of being judged . . . if I call your agency, what can I expect? A: At FIA, we pledge to not judge you! No matter your circumstance, we are here to listen and not judge. We know it’s hard to talk about personal issues with a stranger, but sometimes it is easier than to talk with people who are trying to influence you to do a certain thing. …… Read More