“What Choices Do I Have in Putting My Baby Up For Adoption?”
Adoption has changed a great deal in the last few years. In the past, there were very few choices for women considering adoption. Today, if you decide on adoption for your baby, you and the adoptive family will work together to make your adoption plan unique and personal.
Every adoption plan is different. The plan will be defined as yours by the choices you make. The goal of our counselors is not to pressure you into making an adoption plan, but rather to help you sort through your feelings and options, without influencing you in any way.
Pregnant women/couples and extended family, along with prospective adoptive families, receive support and understanding from FIA. Regardless of your decision, YOU will be treated with kindness and respect.
The types of decisions that you will need to make are as follows:
- Do I need more information about adoption?
- Do I want to meet with or talk to an FIA staff member to learn more about the option of adoption?
If you decide to make an adoption plan, you may want to consider the following:
- Do I want to share my pregnancy and potential adoption plan for my baby with my family and/or friends or do I want to keep it completely confidential?
- Do I want to choose my child’s adoptive family? If so, what type of adoptive family do I prefer for my child (e.g., a certain race, religion, a family who is parenting other children or a family who isn’t)?
- Do I want to speak with or meet my child’s prospective adoptive family before the baby is born?
- Do I want the prospective adoptive family involved during the pregnancy?
- Do I want to spend time with the baby at the hospital and do I want the prospective adoptive family to do the same?
- Do I want information about my child as he/she grows? If so, what form do I want this information to take (letters and pictures, visits, video chat, email, etc.)?