Saturday, May 10th, 2021, is Birth Mother’s Day
FIA sends its love to all the amazing FIA alumni birth mothers with whom we have had the pleasure of getting to know and work with through the years.
We ask you to join us in celebrating birth mothers everywhere!
Growing up with adoption as part of one’s identity is a journey. And, no two journeys are alike. In the spirit of compassionate adoption, honoring birth mothers is important to all in the adoption triad: to first parents, to adoptive parents, and especially to children.
You may have seen the quote, “when you honor the birth family, you honor the child.” Friends in Adoption (FIA) agrees! Children need to celebrate their roots and love from birth and adoptive families. While we are at it, it stands to reason that the spirit of open adoption means that adoptive parents honor the birth family in their hearts and minds every day of the year, not just on birth mother’s day!
Please do your part in educating others on showing kindness, respect, and honor to those who have made the difficult decision, theirs alone to make, to lovingly place their child with adoptive parents.
Alicia and Kathy
In honor of Birth Mother’s Day, FIA is sharing a story from one of our many special families.
“We are Kathy and Dave (not pictured), we adopted Lucy 5 years ago. We have a very open adoption with her birth mother and her family. We could not be more thrilled with the family Friends in Adoption helped us to create! This is a personal project, to have a photo once a year of the three of us together. Lucy and her two mothers, Alicia and Kathy. We want people to know all of this is for the love of a child!” —Kathy, FIA alumni and Lucy’s mom
“Kathy and Dave are truly remarkable in every way and I’m so very fortunate to have the relationship that we do and that I’m able to watch Lucy grow.” —Alicia, Lucy’s birth mom
FIA sends its love to all the amazing FIA alumni birth mothers with whom we have had the pleasure of getting to know and work with through the years, and we ask you to join us in celebrating birth mothers everywhere!
Pictured above: Alicia (birth mom), Lucy (age 5), and Kathy (adoptive mom)
We Celebrate Birth Mothers Everywhere
Let’s be thankful for all the women who have become mothers because of the strength and love of birthmothers. Keep in your thoughts all of the women who are waiting to become mothers.
Reflections and gratitude for birth mothers/first mothers
Birth Mother’s Day was created by Seattle area birth mother Mary Jean Wolch-March back in 1990 to honor women who have placed children for adoption to be raised by adoptive parents. Celebrating birth mothers, also known as first mothers, helps to educate others. Especially on the Saturday before Mother’s Day, we wish to celebrate all birth moms, as well as remember those who may feel forgotten or to help first mothers cope with feelings of loss. We celebrate birth parents who have chosen to have closed adoptions, as well as the many birth parents who are in healthy open adoptions and who are able to see their child in the context of the larger, forever adoptive family setting through post-adoptive contact.
Parenthood, whether birth or adoptive, is a journey. Growing up with adoption as part of one’s identity is a journey. And, no two journeys are alike. In the spirit of compassionate adoption, honoring birth mothers is important to all in the adoption triad: to first parents, to adoptive parents, and especially to children.
Wishing everyone a very respectful and loving Birth Mother’s Day to our communities and beyond! 💜