All parents who bring home newborn babies need and deserve lots of support. Taking care of an infant can be daunting, especially for first-time parents who aren’t sure what to expect. When you adopt a newborn through Friends in Adoption (FIA), you’ll have access to caring and knowledge professionals who will walk alongside you throughout the adoption process and who can help to answer questions once you’ve brought your baby home. But what do prospective parents adopting newborns through FIA need to know from the beginning?
Feeling overwhelmed and unprepared is normal
Choosing to adopt is life-changing, as is bringing home an infant. It’s completely normal and expected for waiting parents to feel nervous, uncertain, and overwhelmed. You may worry you won’t know how to care for your baby or that you’ll make mistakes, which are common fears of almost all new parents.
Use the time prior to bringing your child home to prepare as much as you’re able to. All prospective adoptive parents interested in adoption through FIA are required to participate in a Get Acquainted Workshop (GAW). Attending a GAW is a great learning opportunity that gives prospective adoptive parents the chance to meet with adoption professionals and families who have adopted children.
Talking to other adoptive parents and FIA counselors can go a long way toward helping you feel more confident about what to expect throughout the adoption process, including what it will be like to bring home an infant. But know that no parent ever feels entirely ready to bring home a newborn, and that’s okay!
You’ll have expert, lifelong support
In those moments when you find yourself going down a rabbit hole of worries about what becoming a parent will be like, remember that by selecting FIA to facilitate your adoption journey, you’ll have access to resources and support throughout your and your child’s lifetimes.
As Olivia Pope, Community Outreach and Development Director with Friends in Adoption notes when speaking of FIA clients, “They’re about to be new parents, so they need reassurance and they need resources.” Once you’ve decided to pursue adoption with FIA, you’ll be assigned a case manager who will work with you throughout all stages of the process.
You’re going to fall in love with your baby
For prospective adoptive parents eager to start or grow their families through adoption, waiting for a newborn to arrive can be an exciting time. It may also be anxiety-provoking for some, knowing that you’re on the brink of a major shift in how you live your daily life.
Some waiting parents are concerned about how they’ll feel when they meet their baby for the first time. Babies do change things, but plenty of seasoned parents and FIA alumni will readily share about the nearly immediate positive impact their children have had on their lives.
Many of FIA’s alumni families describe how they felt instantaneous affection upon meeting their new baby. Colby, a father of a toddler adopted through Friends in Adoption, explains, “Fear is understandable, but it’s not gonna happen that way. You’re gonna fall in love immediately.”
And while there’s much that can be said about the wide range of emotions and experiences new parents go through, Katharine Hull, another FIA alumni parent, beautifully captures how it felt to bring home her newborn in just one word: “Finally.”
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