Frequently Asked Question

Is It Hard To Give Your Baby Up For Adoption?

Many pregnant individuals wonder about the emotions surrounding placing their baby for adoption. Will they be overcome by grief and regrets?

The terminology doesn’t help. All the talk about ”giving up a baby for adoption” makes it sound like you’re giving up on your baby. But nothing could be further from the truth! Deciding to place a baby with an adoptive family is a selfless act of love and generosity.

That said, the moment of handing the baby to the adoptive family can be sad and difficult. Here’s how some birth moms describe it.

How does a birth mother feel after adoption?

Q: “What was it like to give up your baby? Did you get to see him/her? At any stage, did you feel any regret or selfishness?” – Jennifer

Written by

Patty Smith

Patty has been with Friends in Adoption for more than 16 years. She manages cases, provides in-service training workshops and community outreach and education. Patty Smith is Friends in Adoption’s Supervisor of Home Study and Post Adoption Services. She also manages cases with expectant women/couples and adoptive parents, provides in-service training workshops and community outreach and education. Patty is universally adored, and she has been an integral member of the Friends in Adoption team since 2007.